The not knowing sucks and theres no real way to get though it. Ok he would of asked you that coz theres a possibility that some of the guys in there have been saying shit like you will be doing the dirty on him, or he will get a dear John letter. You just have to make sure he gets that you are not going anywhere regardless of what he gets...its a bit of work but just keep telling him that your staying put.
Dont forget it probably won't be a full 3 years they might give a bottom and a top date wich means theres a possibility of parole.

Well all I can say is I agree with suchas since my guy was already sentenced. Just make sure if he does get the full three years take a deep breath and some time to think about it all. Then ask yourself the very important questions of "can I really wait for him?" and "do I really want to wait for him?" Please don't think I'm saying throw in the towel, but you do have to think long and hard about it as that's a big life decision. I don't know how old you are, and if you guys have only been together for a short time there may be times when you may think gee these years are passing me by. Then you may have friends/family telling you if you wait for him you'll miss having somebody better. It's lot to think about, but you do have to ask yourself those tough questions!

Yes you do have to ask those questions its not easy waiting for someone in prison.

It didnt even cross my mind till he asked me and then it threw me off. 2 more days left i just need to know how everything is and what he gets im 19 and hes 21 weve been together since i was 14. Hes my love i love him. 3years years he will be looking at 10months (in the uk) i just need to sit back and just get ready for this rollercoaster ride. Hardest thing ive bee through! And theres people who get 10years and they stick by them.

We did 4.
Wait and find out how long his got before you start thinking it will be 3 years......i still dont think it will be that long.
I hope you have told him that you love him......they need reminding sometimes!
It can be pretty hard going sometimes especially when the phones go down or they stuff up your visits or they take forever to send out mail thats some of the fun things that they can throw at you so be warned but we will be hear to help you on this ride!
Hugs!

The whole four years?thats a long time but if you did it and your still so in love. I need to be strong and ride it out for him and kerp him involved in my life even though he is away, uk prisons are so different from America, Australia etc, its more easier over here for the prisoners. Like over here some prisoners have their own mobile phone sneaked in its a joke thank you it means so much

Yep we 6 and 4 so 4 years in and 2 years on parole. We are getting married next year. The whole phone thing well that happens here as well but if they get cought they get sent to one of the thougher prisons.

Omg. Congrats! Omg so if theyre caught with a phone theyre moved to a thougher prison. Here they keep u were u are but add like 8months onto your sentence

Yep they add time as well its a bit full on. Its really not worth it.

Oh god. It shit enneh

Yep.

Lawd don't even get me started on the mail service! Yes you most definitely can't go in panic mode if he skips a week or two. I have learned this the hard way by making myself go insane! I guess I'm the only American here lol! I do have to say where my guy is it's not too bad. He has cable and a tablet! Of course it's nothing like home. Ok here goes my motherly advice...like I said think long and hard about those questions I stated earlier. I have an almost 21 year old son, that's why I'm looking at your situation as a mom, especially if he's the only guy you've ever been with; I know you're an adult and can make your own decisions, just be prepared if he does get the full 3. I'm sure there's going to be guys coming around telling you that you can do better so hook up with them, etc. Or you may find a guy that you like, no on purpose of course; there's just so many twists and turns in life and it's so short! Live it to the fullest! Again I'm in NO way telling you give up on him. I'm sure if I told IRL people in my life they'd think I was crazy for sticking with mine, but they're not me and I think at 40 I know who I want!!

Haha! It takesabout 3ays for his letters to get here and its with a 1st class stamp! But i cant complain he has a tablet like a ipad? See when i hear about a american prison i assume its just bad (watchin too much prison break) does he have access to social media or is that off limits your both on the other side of the world to me. Yet i feel as if ive known you both for years! Funny that. I think theres people here to just fuck it up on the way. Life is too short. Like ive just turned 19 in june! These are my prime yearsm yet im going through this shit. People over here still treat me like im 12, very abrupt and short with me its just such a big part of my life for my 21st i wanted to go somewhere like new york but now i cant as he went and got himself some time in prison. Men aye i cant deal.

It takes 2 days for him to get mine, the craziness happens when the CO's give out mail when THEY feel like it! I must say though for the past month they've been much better! Yes an Ipad and no he can only listen to music, no social media. I wish he could email because that'd be better, but have to love through letters <3
Wow to be 19 again lol! Naah I would in a few ways but not relive the whole year again. That's why I said what I said. Your life is just beginning and you're here worried out of your mind over someone who could possibly be locked up for 3 years. And what really stands out to me was you said ,"for my 21st i wanted to go somewhere like new york but now i cant as he went and got himself some time in prison." So my question is why can't you? You obviously have thought this out a great deal and it's exciting to see new places! That's what you're supposed to do in your 20s, especially if you have no kids. I had my oldest son just 3 months before I turned 20 and all I did was work because the sperm donor did nothing for him. I love my son and don't regret one bit of having him, however there were times I wish I would've waited a bit longer. If you do choose to stick with him don't give up your dream of taking that trip because if you do when you get older you'll beat yourself up about not doing it! If he can't understand that then he's not worthy enough for you!

Do theyy read through your letter over n the US? Its what they do here in the UK. Its 3am over here and i just cant stop thinkin my mind is on over load. Thats good that they allow tablets/ipads. Thats a bit of normalitiy when theyre over there. Haha i cant wait for this year to be over and done with! Shittest year so far. I just thought that was what me and him were meant to do, i wanted to go on jet skiis, i wanted me and him to have that experience i wouldnt want to go with my mum or anyone else. That was our plans you know? Now its just like now what my mum had her first child at 17 hes now 26 and shes 43 i think lol! She always says i dont want you to end up like me ( all of our dads fucked off,& she wished she waited) ive thrown myself into work. Just trying to keep busy. And reading lol! Its just a joke right now. I need friday to come asaaaap!!!