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3 sum

Jenv24
Jenv24
My guy will be out in a yr and a half, and he keeps asking for a 3 sum, im not into that kind of thing and he keeps pushing it, what should i tell him when he keeps asking, i dont want to share him with anybody, i want him all to myself, i just feel very hurt that hed even ask that, i need help asap!!!!!!!!
soulgone
soulgone
He's probably hearing stories from the other guys and thinks he should try it. If you are not into it, tell him that flat out. If he still pushes, you might want to ask him why he's pushing so hard.

Good Luck! HUGS!
Jenv24
Jenv24
well he says its a fantasy of his, but to me it will always be that, and im at a lost of what to ask him to get him to stop
deleted_user
deleted_user
Tell him that it's NOT going to happen an that you feel he is disrespecting you an your all's relationship.

I'm so sorry you even have to deal with this
deleted_user
deleted_user
My guy is the same way. He keeps insisting that I have a 3 some with another girl. I tell him that I don't want to share him with anyone and I feel like he doesn't respect me or our relationship. He doesn't seem to care how I feel. He is very selfish!!! I hope you don't have to deal with this when he gets out of jail. It is very hard and heartbreaking for me. I wish I had better advice for you but all I can say is be careful and look after you. I am here if you ever need to talk to someone. Hang in there. I hope it all works out for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If theres a guy alive that hasn't had that fantasy, I haven't met him!
As others have said, tell him flat out you aren't interested! It can be hurtful but try and see it as just a fantasy of a guy who's behind bars.
If he persists, I'd have to get into it further to find out why he is so determined to do this then maybe suggest counseling or something.
You are going to have to demand respect for yourself and your feelings. He's not the only one serving this sentence, you are too!
Good Luck and Hugs......