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My sister is serving 2 years in federal prison for trafficking and possesion with intent to sell. She has been doing well as of late. We only correspond through letters upon my request.
The other day my mother asked me if she could take my eleven month old daughter in to visit my sister. I told her I had to talk to my fiancee about it first.
We discussed it and decided it would be fine. My mother wouldn't take her if there was any feelings of unsafety. And she is too little to have memories of being in a prison.
They leave tomorrow afternoon and will be home tomorrow night. The prison is about an hour away.
I am starting to panic. Is it okay to let her go? Are prison visiting areas safe? My other sister has taken her 14 month old son a few times. But I have never been myself so I feel like I am sending my daughter into an abyss.
Is it wrong of me to allow my sister a relationship with my daughter while we are struggling to have one ourselves? Or am I leading her on and sending her confused messages?
The other day my mother asked me if she could take my eleven month old daughter in to visit my sister. I told her I had to talk to my fiancee about it first.
We discussed it and decided it would be fine. My mother wouldn't take her if there was any feelings of unsafety. And she is too little to have memories of being in a prison.
They leave tomorrow afternoon and will be home tomorrow night. The prison is about an hour away.
I am starting to panic. Is it okay to let her go? Are prison visiting areas safe? My other sister has taken her 14 month old son a few times. But I have never been myself so I feel like I am sending my daughter into an abyss.
Is it wrong of me to allow my sister a relationship with my daughter while we are struggling to have one ourselves? Or am I leading her on and sending her confused messages?
I don't want to say anything that could make you feel uncomfortable about this. I will tell you the only thing I have even heard that sometimes happen during visits, and it is not something that will put your child in any danger. I have heard of visitors putting alcoholic beverages into children's bottles so the prisoners can drink it. I have also heard of people sneaking drugs into prisons in baby diapers. These are places prison guards often don't think about checking. However, the drugs could not be taken during visits, only passed on, because there are guards present at all times making the use of drugs impossible during the actual visits.
One more thing to hopefully put your mind at ease. Most of the people in prison would not do anything to cause themselves to not be able to have visitors. If a prisoner where to cause problems of any kind during visitations, their right to have visitors would be removed. Prison is such a lonely place, away from everyone and everything in a person's life. Visitations are their only contact with the outside world in many cases, so they aren't going to screw it up.
Some prison visitations are in private rooms as well, not in open spaces. If this is the case, your child would only have contact with your sister.
The best way to put your mind at ease, if you ever want to let her visit again, would probably be to visit yourself. I don't know if that is even a consideration for you, but it would let you see yourself what it is like and whether or not you feel it is safe there for your daughter.
Your responsibility is to your daughter not your sister. i am not saying it isn't safe, I'm just saying I believe in Karma and those people are there for a reason. I am a strong believer in energy - positive and negative and prisons are full of negative energy and people who carry a lot of negative energy.
Again, JMO... but there isn't anyway I would like my daughter go.
as a responsible parent...i wouldn't put my child in that situation...think about it this way...there's obviously a reason you won't go visit your sister...what ever that reason is...why is it ok for your 11-month old daughter if it's not ok for you?
just my opinion ofcourse...but i don't think you should let your mom take your little girl into that kind of environment.
It is a federal womans prison that specializes in the care and rehabilitation of drug offenders. It turned out all went fine.
The gaurds oohed and aahed over my daughter. She wasn't allowed to bring in any liquids so they made her some orange juice and fed her crackers. The whole time they were there they were swamped by gaurds.
I don't know what county jail is, but I have been in a provincial jail and it's nothing like federal prison.
All in all, my worries were slightly unfounded and it's over now. My sister get's early paroled to a detox facility in a few weeks so Marlow will never go back.
she is a cutie!!
hugs!!!