Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
He's home from jail a week. Lucky for me I didn't let him try living here. He started out all rah rah going to rehab. Then came over and started picking me apart with little criticisms. Then tried sabotaging my other son in rehab. He had a visit. Had the guys from rehab over all went to a meeting and gym together. He says he invited one of his friends too. The flipping H dealer who sold my son in rehab drugs. Omg I had five guys in recovery here. Had to make him leave.
He asked me to pick him up from social services to go back to the shelter. I did. He brings this creepy guy and asks if I can give him a ride back too. Then says well let's stop at your house first so he can shower and get clean clothes. Seriously he wanted to bring this guy to my home. What the heck. I guess in fairness to him before prison I was a push over. He doesn't know me anymore. Guess he figured it out. I'm done. I'm strong. I'm knowledgeable now.
So he was supposed to go to rehab yesterday morning. Text me with some BS excuse that he will go in the afternoon. Like the world revolves around him. So I text him back saying its a mile walk. You want help walk there. He's walked a lot further for drugs.
Haven't heard from him since. I
Know he didn't go to rehab because I called his PO today.
I'm done chasing him and feeding into his insanity. I tried. If
He wants to get help I'm there. 21 years of this and it's his turn. I always say dont give up. Have faith. But I cant risk the one breaking his back to get clean for one that wants to bring him down.
My other son is close to 100 days.
He asked me to pick him up from social services to go back to the shelter. I did. He brings this creepy guy and asks if I can give him a ride back too. Then says well let's stop at your house first so he can shower and get clean clothes. Seriously he wanted to bring this guy to my home. What the heck. I guess in fairness to him before prison I was a push over. He doesn't know me anymore. Guess he figured it out. I'm done. I'm strong. I'm knowledgeable now.
So he was supposed to go to rehab yesterday morning. Text me with some BS excuse that he will go in the afternoon. Like the world revolves around him. So I text him back saying its a mile walk. You want help walk there. He's walked a lot further for drugs.
Haven't heard from him since. I
Know he didn't go to rehab because I called his PO today.
I'm done chasing him and feeding into his insanity. I tried. If
He wants to get help I'm there. 21 years of this and it's his turn. I always say dont give up. Have faith. But I cant risk the one breaking his back to get clean for one that wants to bring him down.
My other son is close to 100 days.
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So mad at Xfinity! They're trying to charge me $115 per month for the same service I had been paying $50 the last four years. I took the equipment to UPS for shipping and cancelled my subscription today! Next door was a cookie shop called Crumbl. I had heard of it before but never went in until today. I don't need one more sugar fix, but maybe it will help with my sad) grieving heart....$15...
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
I am terribly sorry for all the disappointment and hurt. I am glad you are stronger and smarter now.
I wish you peace. And I am sending big hugs your way.
And sending special thoughts of support to your sober son. It must be very hard for him to watch.
Ugh. I hate addiction.
He's difficult because he is also untreated bi polar. He refuses meds to make life better because he would rather get high. So until that changes its hard to keep faith.
My other son and I say with two of his social workers who I think the world of. He has a lot of support helping him with this issue. Yes he is very upset. But he realizes the scheming and manipulations. He confronted him about it and got no where. Even invited him to an HA meeting. He knows he needs to work on himself and not his brother.
He was going to come home when he finishes. He decided to go to a sober facility. Feels he needs to gradually work back into life with guys in recovery with him. Doesn't feel it's good to just come home. I'm glad he is making good choices for himself. He makes me proud.
Thanks for the support.
He did steal my tablet and sold it for heroin. I'm always on the receiving end of this crap.
Don't be mad he tells me. I'm trying. Three days to me is a step but 21 years of this and no track record. Ugh. I want to be there for him. But lately I feel who's there for me. Just lil old me that's who.
I feel like moving to a shack in Montana somewhere with no phone and no forwarding address. But of course I won't because where there is light there is hope. I would be lying to say I give up...even if my name says that. I really haven't. It's just so exhausting. Off to more family nights.
I don't blame you for being discouraged, and sick of it all. who wouldn't be after all these years?
I think you are right....you need some kind of get away....even an overnight in a fancy hotel...just to breathe and relax. Or do you have time for something nice like a pedicure or a massage?
your batteries are on low...energy depleted.
I am sending you thoughts of strength and hope and relaxation.
I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers.
God Bless!