There are lots of different possibilities. At the age of 17, chances are they would let you find a way to stay in the community. They might let you stay with a friend or another responsible adult. They might even let you stay on your own. You might qualify for financial aid to go to school when you graduate high school, and then you'd live near the school.

Because you are older, there will be options open to you where you will be safe. Your younger siblings won't have those choices, so it might be best for at least the younger ones to live with your grandma.

But If I said something and my siblings did live with my grandparents they would be mad at me and so would my parents.

Remember, you deserve to be happy and safe, too.

There's no reason that anyone needs to know that you are the one that called.

Even if they find out, that's OK if they are mad. That doesn't last. As a mother, I have very often had to do things that my kids didn't like, but I knew were for their own good. They were mad at first, but eventually they thanked me. Right now, you have been put into the role of acting somewhat like a mother to your siblings because your parents aren't doing their jobs. You need to make choices that are best for you and for your siblings.

You said it yourself. You just want a normal life and normal parents. I'm sure that's what your siblings want too, and it's what you all deserve. This is not something your parents are capable of giving you or your siblings. There are responsible adults in your life who are able to help make that happen.

Will your parents be mad if they lose their kids? Probably. But, they will be working with social workers who will help give show them the way to try to get them back. That will include getting treatment for alcoholism. The State will not allow them to continue raising children while they are drinking or mistreating them. With treatment, it's possible they will eventually realize they are better off sober.

I am so tired of their crap!!!!!!!

They will not tell your parents who called. I had to call on both of my kids at different times. The investigator came to my home because they were living with me, but she would not tell them who called. She just said they had received a hotline call from "someone". Same thing when I called a different time. They won't say who called. I am prayingfor you. You are in a tough position that no 17 yo should be in.

Thank you for your prayers. They mean a lot. I have to fight hard every day NOT to give up because I know something good will come out of the abuse. God has his reasons for putting me through this.

Here's my 2-cents in all this. You need to take action not only for yourself but your baby sister's as well. If the suggestions already given don't work out the the next time you feel threatened or your infant sister our you are put in harm's way you need to leave the house and head for the closest police station. Have a suitcase pre-packed and hidden, in meantime use the video or audio recorder on your cell phone to tape what they are doing so you have proof (pictures & actual conversations are priceless in family court) and demand that you and baby sis be placed into protective custody. Someone needs to be the adult here and since your parents are incapable of doing so then you need to find the inner strength to do it. Best of luck and stay safe...

You say that your mother is abusing you. In what way? Is this only happening to you or is she also abusing your siblings? What does your father do?

Thank you cyndee. Your prayers mean a lot. I never thought about having a bag packed in case I need to leave. Donna. My mom verbally and emotionally abuses me by telling me how overweight I am and saying how I can't do anything right. She has also physically abused me by slapping me in the face and once hit me with a shoe in the stomach. My father is gone most of the time but when he is home he and my mom are drinking.

I'm sorry for what you are going through.

Is your Mom also abusive to the other children, or is it mainly you?

How close are you to turning 18?

It's mostly me. I'll be 18 tomorrow.

Happy birthday! If you are 18, you have lots of options.

Do you have a job? You could save your money to get a place of your own.

Have you thought about going to school? You could talk to your school guidance counselor about options. There are lots of programs, from technical school through 4 year colleges. If you don't have the money, there are scholarships and financial aid programs available. If you're worried about your grades, there are community colleges and online schools that can help bring you up to speed. Going to school gives you a good reason to move out of the house and stay in a dorm or apartment. (I work at a university, so I know there are lots of students who are looking for roommates. That keeps the cost down and you meet new friends.)

If you are 18 or over and the abuse is mainly directed at you, then it might not make sense to report it unless you think any of the other kids are in danger. Focus on making a better life for yourself.

Thank you. I will.

Hi, I to grew up in the kind of life your talking about. I never said anything and when I graduated from high school I left. You have a younger siblings to be concerned about. You should contact Child Protective Services they will help you. It may mean that you will not live with you brothers and sisters but they will see that you are safe. You can contact a emergency Hot line and they will help you with this problem and advise you on what the best course of action to take. You can call the 911 and report what is happening and tell them your feat your mom may hurt you. They to will help to stay safe. You can call 911 and ask them to do a 5150 when your parents are out of it. This is a call for a health and safety check to make sure that someone may be out of control. You need only to say 5150 on my parents. Explain to 911 you are a minor and what is your rights when you do call for a 5150. If anything else go to a teacher you trust. There is a lot of help, No child should like in fear of harm. Remember your parents are sick and they need help. You and you siblings will to. Al-anon works for families and friends of Alcoholics. This program save my life.