Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I have tried to stay firm and keep bounderies with my 21 yr old. He has had times of anger and rage and I told him Friday that I think it is best that he is not living here. I have no idea where this will go, but I feel like I should be prepared and educated if he ever agrees to go to rehab. How does one find a good rehab that one can afford? He also has anxiety and depression issues along with dependancy that goes beyond weed which is what he does on a regular basis. I know that there are various things that he has done. He is also a type 1 diabetic on an insulin pump, which adds so much more fear for me.
I have read about some rehab facilities that deal with mental as well as dependancy issues, but they can be very expensive. Knowing this can be a very long process, is there an affordable way to get good help? He does have health insurance and I have not pursued coverage there, but I know one place I checked into did not accept insurance.
I just want to do my homework and be ready if there ever does come a day when he agrees to more help. I hope that day does come and I am staying strong to not enable him - at least today! Any thoughts or advice?
I have read about some rehab facilities that deal with mental as well as dependancy issues, but they can be very expensive. Knowing this can be a very long process, is there an affordable way to get good help? He does have health insurance and I have not pursued coverage there, but I know one place I checked into did not accept insurance.
I just want to do my homework and be ready if there ever does come a day when he agrees to more help. I hope that day does come and I am staying strong to not enable him - at least today! Any thoughts or advice?
There are so many options out there. Start researching and be ready to help him when he's ready.
I can relate to you, you said you had to tell him that its best he is not living with you. My son is in jail for violation of probation. possibly facing some time, and his public defender has called us to ask if we would allow him to come back here to live, when he gets out, and it was the hardest thing to have to say no, knowing he has no place else to go, and it could very well mean he wont get out of jail anytime soon. I am also researching rehabs for him, he asked me if I would when I went to visit today, but i have to say I am worried because I cant help but think that the only reason he wants to go to rehab is because he got busted, and I know they say, you have to really want help, in order for it to work. My son has anger issues and has also been diagnosed as having ADHD, he has served time in jail before and already went to a 90 day rehab in a prison setting, I just want to say that I am going to stand my ground and not let my son come back here, and I know it will be hard, but I refuse to love him to death (literally). I am using the tough love approach and I hope you do too, and I hope it all works out for you and your son. I think it is a little bit easier for me knowing he is in jail now, ( not to sound cold hearted), but I know he has shelter and food and is not using drugs and is safe,. As for rehabs, I have heard that the Salvation army has free programs, and depending on your location, you may be able to look up more online that will be able to help. Ultimately, it is up to them to get in to rehab, but as Mothers, we want to help. It is so hard to kick our son's out on the streets, but they do have to hit rock bottom and climb their way up. Beleive me, it has taken me way to long to learn that, my son is 22 yrs. old. I have tried everything else I know, and nothing has worked. Letting go is the hardest part. I feel your pain and wish you luck. I am praying I stay strong as well not to enable my son, and I will pray for you.