Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
So, NOW I get a phone call "can I just come to the house for one hour? I just got bailed out of jail and my boys girlfriend will pick me up and I'll be out of your hair by 8pm'.....I said yes (i'm thinking of the Willow Tree comment and bending a 'tad' against my better judgement) my hubby will be home then...
It ought to be good, we put down new carpets,new paint on the walls, took his TV we gave him for xmas and put it in the kitchen, all his stuff is boxed up, his room is all changed and different. his bathroom is even all changed out....LOL...he won't know what hit him.
I'll update. I'm a little nervous, it is like he is trying to 'worm' his way in the door....I don't trust him, but I have to at least sit and talk with him to see where his head is at now.
THEN I'll kick his butt back out the door, and he might even be lucky enough to score a good dinner lol....(probably why he's coming by at this time, he knows dinner is at 7pm lol)....
I guess I'm a little glad to see him as well...who am I kidding of course I am but I will NOT BACK DOWN.... HE IS NOT MOVING BACK IN THIS HOUSE.....
Wish me luck!
It ought to be good, we put down new carpets,new paint on the walls, took his TV we gave him for xmas and put it in the kitchen, all his stuff is boxed up, his room is all changed and different. his bathroom is even all changed out....LOL...he won't know what hit him.
I'll update. I'm a little nervous, it is like he is trying to 'worm' his way in the door....I don't trust him, but I have to at least sit and talk with him to see where his head is at now.
THEN I'll kick his butt back out the door, and he might even be lucky enough to score a good dinner lol....(probably why he's coming by at this time, he knows dinner is at 7pm lol)....
I guess I'm a little glad to see him as well...who am I kidding of course I am but I will NOT BACK DOWN.... HE IS NOT MOVING BACK IN THIS HOUSE.....
Wish me luck!
He looked thinner his hair scraggly. But considering he was jumped by a bunch of frat brothers, he only had a small blackish/reddish eye, a bruise under his arm, but as he said, he knows how to handle himself well.
He saw all the changes and said it looked awesome and was happy to know that we where doing well and asked us if we were okay.
I fed him some dinner, which at 1st he said no to, but I did make him eat...LOL...he was only here for about 30 min. but it was actually good to see him and see where his head was at.
I'm hoping he sees the light and he even said he doesn't want to move back here, but wants to be able to visit when he's in the neighborhood, I told him to call 1st and see what we where up to...LOL...
I'm shocked but relieved all at the same time. He knows the things he needs to accomplish and maybe this time around he will do just that.
Only time will see. But I wanted to update so ya'll didn't worry :O).....
Good job telling him to call first, but he is welcome to visit. :)
hugs
After he left, it took about an hour, but I found myself (as I said I am NOT a cryer) crying but a good cry.
SO, I woke up today not mad, not pounding in my head with the usual conversation with myself....I woke up happier.....
Thanks for all your support!