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My son lost his job today

gordos4
gordos4
My husbands sister called today to tell us that our son lost his job today. He's only been there 4 months, got a promotion to asst. manager. I am pretty sure he's been lying to us about how wonderful his job was going. He hasn't called to tell us yet, I cant wait. This again drudges up resentment toward my husband, who allowed him to, drank with & started our son drinking. I have no idea what were gong to do, except TRY to convince him to go to rehab. He has lost his insurance now. Sigh....
gordos4
gordos4
Thank you Ani99!
Misssy2
Misssy2
What is going on? Have you heard from him?
How are you doing emotionally today?
gordos4
gordos4
Misssy, yes, he finally called us on Sunday, twice. The first phone call, we didn't say anything about the job, & neither did he. Then he called back about 30 minutes later & told us. I will say, he has always been very open & honest with us. When he was a little boy, he would confess everything. If he broke something, or spilled something, he would confess right away.
He told me "mom, I got myself into this mess, I will get myself out, please don't worry about me". I told him that is a mother's job, to worry. I told him I will worry about him & his brothers til the day I die, its' what we moms do. He also got into a car accident on Monday, & cracked his head on the rear view mirror. I swear, when it rains, it pours. The last year & a half has been one thing right after the other. If I didn't have my faith, I would've given up a long time ago. He is in the process of looking for a new job.
gordos4
gordos4
P.S. Misssy, thank you for your concern, I appreciate it. My emotions and nerves are pretty raw right now, & have been for over a year. I have noticed I startle pretty easily. My husband walked into our bedroom last night & it made me jump. Every little noise makes me jump. I hate that.
blueviolet725
blueviolet725
please work on putting your troubles and your childrens into God's hands. i actually got a statue of a wooden carved hand to literally walk over and do it....I had to get it out of my head and heart or I would not have survived.
Worry doesn't help. it just exhausts us. I think things thru, planning for the worst and hoping for the best and try to live in the moment. not using yesterday's worries for tomorrow...it only steals our joy.
you sound at the end of your last nerve. you really need to do whatever it is you have to do to rest and recover a bit.
side note...my kid was always honest too. to us. and the cops, and he lied to everyone else. how crazy.
be well. I have concerns.
gordos4
gordos4
Thank you blueviolet. I am MUCH better than I was a year ago. I have prayed SO much. I think God wanted me to get to a certain point, and all that has happened in the last year has helped me on my way to getting there. I think we are in the end of days, & God is preparing me for that. I actually had a dream about getting raptured awhile back.
The idea of focusing on myself is so foreign to me, I have always had kids to take care of, and my husband of course. This whole thing has been hard on our marriage. I didn't think we would make it there for awhile, still not 100% sure.