I am sorry

I am so sorry. I wish there was something I could say to relieve the pain. My son fooled me too many times to count. We now have a strained relationship but his lies and maniipulation were just too much.. Try to take care of yourself. As much as you can.

Trust and honesty are very hard with addicts.

This disease is horrible, I'm sorry!

You are your own person, and what your sister does has nothing to do with you. I know it hurts, but try to detach from her. The addict and the person are two different identities. If they try to hard to say their clean, they probably aren't clean. Maybe it would be best if you had very little to do with her, so that you don't get upset and hurt.

Oh my.. I am sorry. Although this is so painful for families, it is not yours to "own".. It does not reflect on you.. Katrina is right.. It is very hated to detach, but so necessary. Take care of yourself and your family.

I am so so sorry....this is a terrible and painful thing for the family. What a horrible disease!!!!! When the disease takes over they become different people. We are all here for you....God help us all

Mary ((((((HUGS))))))

Many times it just seems like they try to project their bad stuff onto the other person --probably an attempt to relieve themselves--try to twist things and blame you.
It is even more obvious when you see this behavior done to others --like yourself. When you have no emotional connection to a person you see the reality/sickness more clearly.
Don't allow her to pull you down--you MUST detach from the craziness/sickness! It is not your disease!

I have asked myself just like I am sure many others have too...
How could you do this to me????
I believe the answer is because you were in my path.
Remove yourself from their path...at least emotionally if not physically.

It did not happen to you.
It did not happen to you.
You are not accountable for your sister's choices.
Friends who gossip are not friends.
Many families hide the secrets until it gets on court TV- oh wait, that was my family and yours was facebook.
We have all been humiliated by our addict's choices.
I am sorry that you feel bad. BUT it is an insane addiction and anyone who doesn't understand that is not worth worrying about.
It did not happen to you. you are not going to jail. You did not get arrested. Hold your head up...You are fine.
People and situations can only make us miserable if we let them.
wishes for peace.

It is horrific, but it is her choice. Sometimes we invest too much time in trying to create a perception of perfection and there is no such thing. Take a step back and realize you cannot control anything she does, you can only control yourself and how you live your life. Stay strong

To echo what everyone else has said. I am heart sorry to you. Remeber it's not your sister, its the disease. Hate the disease, we all do!
When it gets grip they cant help but lie and manipulate. I am so very sorry

There is absolutely no reason for you to be humiliated. You didn't do this. It wasn't your choices that caused this. It was your sister. This is where detachment comes in handy. You continue to live your life. Don't let this consume you.

Love your sister. Hate the addict. And stay strong enough to recognize the difference between the two.

Like everyone has already said..
You did not cause this you can not cure this and you can not control this. It is all on your sister. yes you are horified but so not let your sister ruin your life. You have to come to realize that her life is not your life and I'm sure she really hates her life too. She is sick hate her addiction, go to meetings to learn to live with a sick family member, it soes not mean you are ok with her disease it means you know longer want to be dragged down by it. You are lucky you are not an addict she is not as lucky as you are.

Her addiction is widely known in the city. This is her second offence, she is facing 10 to 15 years in prison. Am I horrible that I WANT her to go? Knowing that she has health issues that will more likely then not see her die in prison?

I know its not my fault. I couldn't explain that in the original post because I was livid. My friends don't gossip. My city is 50 000 people. I, surprisingly, only got 12 hate messages from random strangers this go round. Last time she was charged I got 69 messages from people telling me to kill myself and jump off a cliff because my whole family is a waste of skin. It go so bad I copy and pasted a response that I sent out to all of them.

'I know her by blood, she is my sister. I didn't have a choice. How exactly do you know her?"

Most people never messaged back again. Plus the first time people knew where I lived and dropped hate mail in my freaking mail box. I had been raising on of her kids and I'm guessing she pointed my place out. This time no one knows where I live so no mail! :)

I am detatched, as much as I can be. I hadn't talked to or seen my sister in almost two months when that hit the news. Since everyone and their dog already knew she was an addict everyone and their dog also knew she was on the path of recovery. So they all knew when she fell off.

Small town/city means nobody's business is private :(