Put your big girl pants on,,, you done your one person pity party!!! You got 23 days of you time,,,,, use it wisely!!!

Ok, ok, sleep in his tee shirt and use his pillow,, come on girl use girly soap,,,, in fact go get a bottle of fufu bubble bath

And if I have to come find you to kick your butt I will this cardinal has some powerfull wings

Far be it from me to admit ive arrived in my recovery. But you are human, you have feelings, emotions, and you have been affected. I have been so tough and tried so hard to be super responsible to take care of me and to avoid people looking down on me, that any signs of weakness within myself was just enough cause for me to persecute the h_ll out of myself , to kick myself into gear.Well unbelievably after so many years, it's not working. I CANT kick myself anymore.I've tried and tried. Recovery is showing me the opposite.To be good to me. No more persecution and being mean to myself for being a human, a woman whose been hurt .I must replace those negatives and be nice to me so i can recover and learn to be a more healthier, "more productive" person. Not using the outdated, no longer effective-coping of the past that do not work today. Do what you need to do to be loving understanding and taking care of you. trust your instincts on what you need to do to take care of you.I've noticed that ive been so impatient to get better, i dont want to slow down and do it, and when i do, i beat myself up for it.It's easier for me to focus on someone else than to look at me.learn me-who i am , what i dont want, what im afraid of-learn a better way to live.it's hard to look.Give yourself permission and reassure yourself as many times as you need to. There is room for you and your needs in your life, if you will allow. Big hugs to you, youre a strong woman.you've probably done more than enough for others.Now treat yourself good.I realize some of what i shared may not apply-if not, forgive, ive assumed too much.If you get anything out of it good.
Take care-im sure ill be reminding myself to do the same over and over...
Melanie

See! I told you I'm pathetic. The whole time I'm sitting there thinking, What the hell is wrong with me?? I just could not get it together. It was the first time I was completely alone in what feels like a lifetime and I had no idea what to do. It's almost like I was in shock or something. So so pathetic!

Nope. just human...head towards the light....of recovery. You'll find your way.
Cardinal said it well too.

How about thinking of it this way? he is working on building his life. and much of his time after rehab may be filled with meetings...and you have to have something to occupy yourself. That is supporting him.
Last thing he needs is a miserable woman to come home to.
Paint the kitchen, start working out, learn chinese....whatever.
IT takes two healthy people to have a healthy relationship....you spent all your energy supporting him, and now your job has changed.
AND unlike Steph....you get to get your hubby back.
so, lets have an attitude of gratitude, and like cardinal said...you're done with the pity party. Time to move and groove!!!!

We all create our own destiny and we all have choices. You can chose to wallow in pity and why me? Or you can choose to not let his addiction become yours. Become the person you want to be do not let someone define who you are. A beautiful quote "Joy does not simply happen to us. we have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day."

I know how you feel. I have been away for my man for 2 nights now and have slept in his shirt and on his side of the bed. He is at his parents house an hour an a half away so it would be so easy for me just to run to see him but that wouldn't be the best thing for me. I had to kick him out after finding a Rx pill addiction has formed and this time I was not strong enough to deal with it myself. I am trying to be strong leaving him with his parents who are both recovering alcoholics (dad 7 1/2 years and mom 2 months) untill he decided to get himself help. I miss him so much and so does our daughter. everytime I walk in the front door and see all his stuff not there I just break down. it's hard to be strong and alone but it is something we have to do for ourselves. and I pray that it will work this time. Keep your head up. it's okay to miss the person. it's the disease that we all hate

Why is it we miss what is bad for us? You need to get out of your head and think how his being at rehab is a positive step.

Mack being at rehab is a very positive step! The more I learn about SMART, the more I like it. We both need this time to heal. I know that. He does too. I miss him so much because the good in our lives, the good times that we shared, outweigh the bad. I have hope. And yes I did spend a weekend moping. But after the last 6 months, I think I may have earned it. I'm feeling much more feisty today!

Glad your feeling better today. I guess the weekends can be kind of lonely, but eventually you will be able to visit him. I am happy for you!

Wanted to add nice to see your picture, I always wonder what people look like.

Glad you are better today...I had a day of self indulgence.

Since my hubby got diagnosed with diabetes, we have eaten super healthy....(I thought we did before, but now with hardly any carbs) and he is gone for two days.
I bought cream sticks (big long donuts with crap inside that is nothing but grease and sugar) and I ate 3 today....until I felt ill....one at lunch, one mid afternoon and one tonight. and there is one left if I can stomach it.

Sometimes we all have to be a bit self indulgent (self destructive?), and give into the emotions driving us. I was just craving crap...which is crazy because we hardly ever ate it...it was just that now we couldn't.....How insane. Over it now. thank goodness.

Hang in there hon... Be good to yourself, and trust that your beloved is on the road to recovery.