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Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Here come's The Jolly Fat Man

joleneLS
So Christmas is almost here. And with it, all the problem's that my family has attempted, miserably I might add, to bury.
My sister is an addict. Recently they tacked the word 'recovering' in front of it. But I wonder if the word recovering should really be covering. I know that there are relapses on any road to riches. Pot holes, speed bumps, all that jazz. But how many set backs is it before you admit to yourself that she's not even really trying?
Since September, when her very very short rehab stint ended, there has been at least three set backs, that I know of. My family doesn't tell me when she relapses, they say that I'm not synpathetic enough. That I'm cold hearted. That I don't listen to my sister's problems.
So the lovely season of Christmas, which I dread more everyday, will bring it all bubbling to the surface. It always happens. My sister is long on accusation's and short on patience. It always ends in a brawl of words. And most likely another excuse for 'June' to go off the deep end.
For the holiday's my fiancee and I bought her a gift card. She want's one for clothes, stating she has none and that's all she needs. We got her one for groceries. As she doesn't eat anything but junk. And when she sees it, she will freak out.
For my mother's birthday in November I bought her a clothing gift card, and June was furious. Claiming that I didn't get her anything useful like that for her birthday. All I got her were trinkets( wich is true, she can't pawn them for crack money). It was a huge screaming match, with my sister doing all the screaming, on my mother's birhday.
So am I starting trouble by not buying her the present she wants? What do I do when she tells me she hates it and calls me names? My fiancee want's nothing to do with my sister. He dislikes her with a passion. And he will tell her what he thinks of her ungratefulness. Should I try and stop him? Or let her have what's coming to her?
I think I hate Christmas.....
My sister is an addict. Recently they tacked the word 'recovering' in front of it. But I wonder if the word recovering should really be covering. I know that there are relapses on any road to riches. Pot holes, speed bumps, all that jazz. But how many set backs is it before you admit to yourself that she's not even really trying?
Since September, when her very very short rehab stint ended, there has been at least three set backs, that I know of. My family doesn't tell me when she relapses, they say that I'm not synpathetic enough. That I'm cold hearted. That I don't listen to my sister's problems.
So the lovely season of Christmas, which I dread more everyday, will bring it all bubbling to the surface. It always happens. My sister is long on accusation's and short on patience. It always ends in a brawl of words. And most likely another excuse for 'June' to go off the deep end.
For the holiday's my fiancee and I bought her a gift card. She want's one for clothes, stating she has none and that's all she needs. We got her one for groceries. As she doesn't eat anything but junk. And when she sees it, she will freak out.
For my mother's birthday in November I bought her a clothing gift card, and June was furious. Claiming that I didn't get her anything useful like that for her birthday. All I got her were trinkets( wich is true, she can't pawn them for crack money). It was a huge screaming match, with my sister doing all the screaming, on my mother's birhday.
So am I starting trouble by not buying her the present she wants? What do I do when she tells me she hates it and calls me names? My fiancee want's nothing to do with my sister. He dislikes her with a passion. And he will tell her what he thinks of her ungratefulness. Should I try and stop him? Or let her have what's coming to her?
I think I hate Christmas.....
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Say Merry Xmas.
Joe.
Good Luck, Merry Christmas