according to our son! Ok, we work HARD, have a lovely home, all sorts of recreational toys.....and our son had everything a kid could want. But I guess that was not good enough, he never felt comfortable, he stated. But now, living where he is, able to smoke pot whenever he wants, do whatever he wants, doesn't have a pot to piss in, he feels so comfortable with his new 'family'. AND to boot he is 'bragging' about meeting his birth father, who he hasn't seen since he was 2, the guy stole his ssn at age 14 and left all sorts of debt open and never paid off, ruined the kids credit and we didn't know until he was 19....word of caution, if your spouse is like that and you have young ones, RUN THEIR CREDIT REPORT yearly and check it. And my Son says 'oh he was going through an emotional breakdown at the time he did that..." THAT is a good excuse? I don't THINK so! And his grandmother on that side, well, she's hooking him up to take care of an elderly gentleman and drive him to the doctors etc and live with him. THE KID DOESN'T have a LICENSE! got taken away when he went to jail and she thinks that is OKAY? He is due to get it back in March and he is willing to RISK it and she is OKAY WITH THAT? She is a LOON! In a letter I found from her to him while he was in jail she 'awaits him to take his place in the family." WHAT? Are you the Sopranos? JEEZ....I talked to his Aunt, whom I haven't talked to in 3 years, and put him in touch with her, she is the ONLY normal one out of the 4 of them and told her all this. She said that sounded just like her Mom, they don't get along. I told her that I hated to dump it in her lap, but maybe if he heard it from her, he would believe it. ALSO the grandmother tells him of ALL the money for college his 'father' put aside for him is awaiting him. THEY HAVE NOTHING. THERE IS NO MONEY. He couldn't even pay a lousy 30.00 a week! He owes me over 60K in back child support! WTH? I dragged him into court a long time ago and the courts let him go 'home to get his checkbook' and he never returned and they never picked him up....so I never bothered again. WHY? To waste my time, I had to WORK not spend days in a courthouse. JIMMENY CRICKET! This is why I never kept contact with them, and the fact the ass would be driving drunk with him, etc.....and he never showed up at the mediated visitation on Sat that I had to drive 1 1/2 hours to get to but he was only 15 min. away. I thought this was all behind me.

I KNOW he is 22 and an adult, but he is sooo vunerable and they SEE that, that is how they operate, he is 'prey' to them. Now I hear the Grandmother wants him and his father to live together. OMG! He is mentally unstable and living with his mother at 51 and now she wants THEM to live together?

I'm losing my mind, thank GOD I have a therapists appointment tomorrow.

Will this rollercoaster EVER end. I went through it with the father, now the kid and now both together.
He is meeting him for the 1st time on his birthday this week. How fitting, a Hallmark Moment.

It hurts soooo much to think that this kid is painting a pic for everyone of how 'awful' we were to him, that his life was SO uncomfortable, he didn't work, didn't pay rent.....it was UNCOMFORTABLE FOR US! THAT's who it was uncomfortable for!

Welp, I have tried to be still in touch with him and be on 'even keel' with him and listen to him, but I'm gonna have to just reject the calls, the texts and stop looking at his FB page.

I feel bad as if he thinks he's messed up now, wait until THEY are done with him.

This woman had 3 kids. Two are totally messed up. The oldest was smart enough to get out early. The youngest is at risk of losing her only child due to neglect. BUT when I met them, they seemed pretty normal, well adjusted, they play fake VERY well. I didn't know ANYTHING until after the vows and on our wedding day when he made the remark in front of the videographer of 'you'll do what I say when I say it, you are now my wife!'.....hmmm, should've gotten an annulment the next day.

I am so scared for him. BUT I know, he is an adult he should be able to make up his own mind. But he has nothing, nowhere to go and they are opening the door to him. I will NOT fall back and allow him back in our home. I can't, won't shouldn't and I won't be played again. Maybe he is saying all this to play me again and beg him to come home? AIN'T HAPPENING! I REFUSE!

Get a damn job! Get your own life going, stop waiting for everyone to do it for you. That's right! He is wanting everyone to do it for him! Hmph. Didn't think of it that way.

Wow, if it wasn't for this site, and you all taking the time to read these and give me the opportunity to vent it out like this, well, they'd be 'coming to take me away aha, coming to take me away hee hee ho ho to the funny farm where life is beautiful all the time and I'll be happy to see those nice young men in their nice white coats as they're coming to take me awwwwaaaayyyyyy" Okay just REALLY showed my age on THAT rendition of an oldie but a goodie...anyone remember THAT song?

Ah, venting, done, feeling better, stronger...okay now onto my chores.