Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Here we go again. I JUST finished my therapy....I have my head on straight. I've redone the down stairs, everything freshly painted, new rugs...'his' room redone....and the phone rings an hour ago "can I home please for a week, I just got jumped by a bunch of guys at a frat party, they took my wallet, my phone, I have two black eyes, I was lucky but I need to rest my head".
I took a deep breath and said "are you kidding? I have been watching your FB postings, you have not tried to make ANY changes for the better in your life and you want me to open our door for ONE week? ARE YOU KIDDING? NO!".....I told him to call his birth father and go live there "I'm not comfortable with them yet, I'm comfortable with you guys" OF COURSE YOU ARE! I held my ground.....I went to say I love you but....he broke in and said " I KNEW you didn't love me anymore...." and hung up.
SO BE IT! Say I! I cried for a bit, my husband came in the door and after a wonderfully happy morning he was dismayed to see the tears...I told him what happened and he told me I was absolutley SPOT ON in my reply to him and if he has had two months now and continues to take this path and show NO change and wants to spend a week here? NO!
I have to say this whole scene is heart renching but I realize ONE thing...he WAS my child but is now a young adult, 22. He has been to Bahrain, Portugal he has seen the world and yet he can't seem to get his head out of his butt and $8.50/hr is 'below' him to take, well it is $8.50/hr you DO NOT HAVE NOW!.....I'm making 15.00/hr less than I use to but I NEED a job.....so what is HIS story?
I'm writing this for all the other parents that are struggling with the word NO to their young adults...they WERE our children, keep that thought in your head....WERE is the key word.....
We've GIVEN the lessons that were important, if they learn them and use them is UP TO THEM......
I can't make it all better anymore only HE has the power to do that....now us....oh we can make it REAL cozy for him, but NO MORE.
If he isn't going to show ONE bit of change in two months, what will a WEEK do?
I'm so angry at his lack of taking the initiative! I'm angry at him continuing to try to use us.
I pray for us all! I pray for our young adults who have gone 'astray' and hope that the good Lord helps them find the path that is right.....
I took a deep breath and said "are you kidding? I have been watching your FB postings, you have not tried to make ANY changes for the better in your life and you want me to open our door for ONE week? ARE YOU KIDDING? NO!".....I told him to call his birth father and go live there "I'm not comfortable with them yet, I'm comfortable with you guys" OF COURSE YOU ARE! I held my ground.....I went to say I love you but....he broke in and said " I KNEW you didn't love me anymore...." and hung up.
SO BE IT! Say I! I cried for a bit, my husband came in the door and after a wonderfully happy morning he was dismayed to see the tears...I told him what happened and he told me I was absolutley SPOT ON in my reply to him and if he has had two months now and continues to take this path and show NO change and wants to spend a week here? NO!
I have to say this whole scene is heart renching but I realize ONE thing...he WAS my child but is now a young adult, 22. He has been to Bahrain, Portugal he has seen the world and yet he can't seem to get his head out of his butt and $8.50/hr is 'below' him to take, well it is $8.50/hr you DO NOT HAVE NOW!.....I'm making 15.00/hr less than I use to but I NEED a job.....so what is HIS story?
I'm writing this for all the other parents that are struggling with the word NO to their young adults...they WERE our children, keep that thought in your head....WERE is the key word.....
We've GIVEN the lessons that were important, if they learn them and use them is UP TO THEM......
I can't make it all better anymore only HE has the power to do that....now us....oh we can make it REAL cozy for him, but NO MORE.
If he isn't going to show ONE bit of change in two months, what will a WEEK do?
I'm so angry at his lack of taking the initiative! I'm angry at him continuing to try to use us.
I pray for us all! I pray for our young adults who have gone 'astray' and hope that the good Lord helps them find the path that is right.....
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
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