Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I just joined this site because my boyfriend is addicted to painkillers. I don't have much experience with this, and I'm not sure what I should be doing. Over the weekend he quit cold turkey and he's going into outpatient treatment next week. He's been going to NA meetings every day. The withdrawals have subsided but there are all these other things to deal with. I think I've done all I can and the rest is up to him, but I need help too. I've already decided I'm going to be here to support him so long as he is clean and sticking to the program, but if he lies to me again I may not even know if he's relapsed. Is there a class or something I can go to?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Addiction is a family disease and we get very sick too if we don't take care of ourselves. We cannot do a thing for the addict but support their recovery, BUT we can take good care of us, as I said so that we keep our peace and serenity.
Relapse sadly is often part of their recovery. It happens often. And I believe that a relapse begins as soon as they stop doing all those things that they are supposed to do, to keep clean. The using comes at the end of the relapse. They need to change playgrounds, playmates and playthings. Meanwhile, we can only manage our lives ONE day at a time.
My daughter is the addict in my life. I know how painful this is. Please know that we are all here for you.
Codependent No More is a wonderful book. The author is a recovering addict and she has So much to say that is very valuable for us and our feelings. I highly recommend it.
Come here and be with friends, and post as often as you need to.
I will send up a prayer for you and your loved one..
EllaBlue
((hugs))
EllaBlue
Yes, the best advice I can give is find an Alanon or Naranon meeting. It will be great support for YOU. You have got to take care of yourselves, and learn about addiction and learn about yourself, and what you might be doing to enable, etc. You will learn coping skills in these groups that will help you deal with all you face, and with many of life's challenges.
If you can, I would also suggest counseling, individual counseling for yourself, and/or couples counseling. In a relationship, if one person is unhealthy, it effects both people. If one gets help to get better, and the other does not, one person is still unhealthy. Both people should get help, and take the journey to wellness at the same time.