Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Hi everyone, Just wanted to get some support here. I have a 43 yr old brother whom has been a crack addict for about 12 years. We have been down this crazy road for a long long time. He lives with my mom and has probably stolen about 35,000 dollars from her. He also has full blown AIDS. He manipulates her and makes her feel sorry for him. We used to be like twins. I do not know him anymore. I have had to take my moms finances from her(but still finds ways to give him money) I have loaded my mom up on enabling and codependence info to no avail... I learned how not to become an enabler. I am so angry at them both. I see my mom diminish from the stress(i have called elder abuse and they have done nothing!!!) I have talked, screamed, encouraged, begged, threatened my brother to leave her home, but he has it very very good there. He is not using at moment but has done very little to live a sober life. I have 2 other brothers and out of anger for my mom babying him they have walked away and have never looked back. Now Im the one who takes care of my mom. I dont live with her, but live about 2 miles away. I love my mom and brother but I am just about crazy with their crazyiness!!! They both lie to me. It is so heartbreaking to watch. Any suggestions?
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Hey yall. I took a hiatus from ds for a couple of weeks or more. I thought I was going to just leave ds because it's been so slow. I have been journaling in a notebook but since I don't carry it with me, it's been inconvenient. So I apologize if I caused anyone to worry about my absence but I'm back and will be updating my journals again as I have time :)
of issues. I loved my marriage counselor Too.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.
I have major struggles dealing with my own mother
Never mind my ex and MIL. My mother is the worst
Of the three.
I give my mother very strong boundaries now and do not
Play into her games. She lives a couple of states away.
My biggest fear now that i am single is to have to care
For her. She is 83 with no real game plan except stay
In the house that is too big for her on an acre on
manicured lawn. She is hunched over, can still drive,
Deal with her own financials and she has a BF that
Comes over to stay a few nights a week.
One of my three brother that lives closeby is talking
And helping her, that changes too. Two of my sisters
live up By me. There are not too many easy answers
with highly dysfunctional people. My two sisters have
Plenty of their own troubles and no car of their own.
Hugs mirandac
the other One liked Vicodin, they are both off their opiates
of Choice right Now, their lives still have not changes a
Whole lot. Not my dog and pony show. I have Detached
long ago my mother likes to enable Them Though.
I do not do well dealing with dysfunctional controlling
And micromanaging people like my mother.
She attended alanon for over 20 years she Must have
had her ears and mind closed. I think things were better
for our family during Those years so there was some good
from it. HUGS
He remarried and he was dry before then thru shock
Treatments. Him and his second wife just died, i had
A semi relationship with him. My step father has died too,
He was a pretty good guy except their marriage got toxic
With affairs on both sides. Things are still crazy in the
Dynamics because of that situation. HUGS back
Issue and distress. That is really where my
Head, heart and soul are troubled. I need to
Hand him over and be done with him just
Not there yet.
My mother i detached from years ago but
I have a lot of realistic fear of having to deal
With her in her old age.
I have been dreaming about moving down
South get in 55 park with affordable housing,
And Keep working, my mother is the wild card
In this equation. I still might do it anyways, i will
Be 60 this year and want to travel. HUGS
How everything unfolds. I am still not totally
Healed up and rearing to go. Just going away
Last weekend triggered me big time. HUGS
I go to church. Alanon weekly and divorce care
as needed. I have beat every bush i can find to
get and feel Better.
It did scare me all the triggers and its been a
Week and i am still unsettled. A Set back, keep
going forward One foot in front of the other. I
am on schedule for Divorce it takes 3 years to
normalize its only been 14 months. HUGS