Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
So how do you deal with an addict's anger, short temper and attitude? Yesterday my bf texted me that he was leaving his junkie "friends" house because his grandparents were finally letting him stay with them. He said he went to get his stuff and the guy flipped out on him and beat him up. I replied, "call me when you can, I'm really worried." he called a little while later and said "I'm bleeding everywhere, I think he broke my nose". I said, "are you serious?!", I guess I was so shocked it sounded like I was laughing. He went off on me saying I was laughing at him, called me a bitch and I haven't heard from him since. I know he was just angry at the whole situation, and he'll realize he was overreacting and apologize at some point (I haven't made any attempt to contact him)
How do you not hold that attitude against them or get upset about it? I know it's the drugs that bring out that part of him.
How do you not hold that attitude against them or get upset about it? I know it's the drugs that bring out that part of him.
At this point, I am trying to keep my serenity by focusing on myself. I have put a wall up around myself at this point and even though I know it's not healthy, it's what I've had to do to survive. I am going to therapy and I go to Al Anon meetings to help me gain some perspective and to start breaking open that hard shell without letting the alcoholic damage my self esteem. Look into the book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie or any book on boundaries and that may give you some insight as to how to handle his outbursts and abuse.