It has been reported that epilepsy either changed or first began during menopause. Fluctuating hormone levels during menopause may exacerbate or diminish seizures. As estrogen decreases during menopause, the excitatory effect on neurons lessons. At the same time, protective progesterone levels also decline.
If your current neurologist finds this complex, it wouldnt hurt to seek out a second opinion. Also you could try to research this with the Epilepsy Foundation.

check out epilog.us
Do you know there are epileptologists out there? Perhaps they would be more educated in this area.

Panic attacks and menopause is a lot of stress. Women who are epileptics are numerous who have a seizure during their menstrual cycle. Now that the estrogen and progesterone are playing havoc with your emotions as these chemicals decline on top of the panic attacks sounds like you have a lot tof stress and that could bring on epilepsy symptoms. I went through andropause which is a male version of perimenopause/menopause which was very difficult for me and my emotions. The help of a medical specialist who specialises in administerring hormone replacement therapy may be who you need to see. Seeing one who specialises in such diagnosises in patients who take medications for other conditions would be a PLUS. Talk to your family doctor about this option. That hormone replacement therapy will only be needed until the end of menopause. The end of menopause is described as the time after going for one year without having a menstrual period basically, according to a female friend of mine who was a nurse all her professional life. Good luck

I know where you are my doc added premin at the lowest possible dose. It really helped ease the hot flashes and sweating. I can wear make-up now