my husband keeps yelling at me to actually get a job. i dont even know what kind of job to get

sorry im wallowing he actually just called asking me if i filled out any apps today. then yelled at me when i said no.

im not married, but i can guarantee you, my ex didnt understand... he would say "at least you're alive!" oooo it would drive me crazy.

Megan
Go to some stores that you like and apply? Good luck.

now he's not talking to me at ALL! I slept in spare room for 2 days. Shouldnt he apologize for yelling and caring so much about money!

I think it is really hard for people to understand how much pain we are really in. I also think people, espeically men, cannot understand the type of pain associated with a period, let alone have endo.

I am very lucky. My finace has a mom who has been sick his entire life, so he is used to it. He gets upset sometimes when I just want to stay in bed or on the couch and do nothing, but I know he feels it's for my own good to get out and move around.

I would suggest taking your spouse with you to the doctor. Maybe hearing it from a medical professional will help him understand a bit more?

My husband is normally really super understanding, but lately even he has been losing his patience with all of this. I personally blame each and every doctor who ignored me, told me it was in my head, shrugged and offered no help, or confirmed I was in pain but they 'couldn't see anything causing it'.
The medical community and people in general REFUSE to recognize the symptoms and pain of endo. My bro in law - who is not usually sympathetic - even said I am in incredible amounts of pain because he understands endo and is a gyn professor. I feel like if any of us had cancer, AIDS, MS or something equally devastating, the whole world around us would rally....but endo for some reason is ignored and put down as 'in our head'.
Where is the "Walk to End Endometriosis"? Where are the Endometriosis research centres? I found a ton of canadian websites to support people with damn CELIAC disease (meaning you just can't eat wheat) and yet in Ontario there is not ONE support group for endo.
I sympathize with you and someone needs to teach your husband what endo does and why you are not at some lame job who will yell at you all day for being sick....

my hubby wont go to the pain dr with me, I already asked, he said "why, i know youre in pain" he just tries to ingnore that I have chronic pain(denial) I guess maybe thats his way of dealing w it, since he cant fix it, but a hug or kiss or how are you, would help. I now need another surgery, and will be out of work for 4 weeks, dont want to do it right now, if he's not going to help me?

im not married but my boyfriend does not understand either. i finally decided to move out because i couldnt handle feeling guilty everynight on top of having to deal with the pain of endo. im here if you ever want to talk :)

I've been out of work for 3 months and had 4 surgeries in that time period. Maybe you can sit down with him and explain how you feel and let him know he hurts you more by yelling. I've been applying to part time jobs, and jobs that don't require standing a lot or picking up heavy stuff. Maybe office jobs or call centers??? Don't let it stress you out though, guys just feel that they're carrying the weight for them and you (and kids). They don't realize we have pain, have to clean, take care of kids, go to school, have dinner ready for them when they get home... let him know yelling makes you NOT want to get a job even more... maybe it'll be his reality check!

K arm
Check out www.liveops.com you could do from home?I was thinking about it when I recover from surg, home for 4 weeks or more.