Hey MissLiss...That's not something any of us can answer for YOU, sweetie. I can only say that for me, personally...Yes I always knew I wanted children. I wanted 2 to be exact. My older sisters and brothers had children that I adored from age 16. My husband and I wanted a boy and a girl. We even had names for "them". Unfortunately, I NEVER had the option of whether or not to TTC. I spent too many years fighting to survive, so my health did not warrant adoption either.

Don't RUSH into such a serious decision. However, the "reverse" is also true. Don't TTC under outside duress and pressure. I'm sorry because I know where your heart is, but I can only offer HUGS of support to you.

~~Pup

Thanks pup! I appreciate your support. I know that nobody can make the decision for me, I totally do not expect that :)

I guess I was mostly concerned about not knowing immediately whether I want children or not and if having to think about it is weird/strange or whatever it is people think of me when I say that I do not know if I want kids. I guess I expected to just always know if I did and it hasn't been that way.

I am sorry you have been through so much. hugs and support to you too!!

I don't think it's weird at all, and you shouldn't feel pressured to start now. You're still young but you're lucky you know about your endo so you don't have to spend 3 years trying to get pregnant before someone figures out what's wrong.

Also - endo doesn't always cause infertility so don't assume you're going to have trouble if you decide you want a baby. You could very well get pregnant the first cycle you try.

I think you're just fine! I think there are people who have always wanted kids and truly want them, I think there's people who think they want kids and don't know what they are getting themselves into, I think there's people who are unsure, and I think there's people who don't want kids! I've always wanted kids, but now that I'm a little older I see that they are also a lot of hard work!!

Obviously you have to make your own decision. I wouldn't rush into anything simply because the doctors are telling you. They might even be wrong. I was also told I should have kids asap, but I'm 31 and not even dating anyone, so there's nothing I can do. I think in time you will be more clear on your answer. You're young. :)

thank you all so much for your kind words and support. i love and appreciate you all :)

I guess I was having a freak out moment after talking to some of my coworkers who just seemed to always know and thought i was out of the ordinary. other decisions have come so easily. I am working on my second masters degree and hoping to get my Ph.D and have always known I wanted to do that and teach and research, but something like kids is a way more gray issue for me. At least I am young and have time to decide :)

love and hugs to you all!

I don't think you're abnormal or anything for not being sure yet. It's a big decision and one that has to be shared between two people making it even bigger. It's such a personal issue and with strong feelings involved that I think people don't talk about it so much when they're not sure yet precisely because you'll often feel pressured one way or another by those around you which is the last thing you need.

I never wanted kids and neither did my husband and we've stuck with that for the 12 years we've been together. It has just never been in our plans, people told me I would change my mind but I haven't. I think I am in the "I always knew" camp, although so many people told me when I was a teenager that I would change my mind that I sort of started to believe them. I thought maybe it was a phase and I would change my mind, but I never did.

I was also told to have kids ASAP by a few doctors....even after telling them we weren't interested. I guess it's the nature of the ob/gyn field.

Hey!
I think choosing whether or not to have children is a very personal decision. You need to do what's right for you. However, it seems to be a topic that everyone always seems to think they need to give advice on. At least, that has been true for me. I'm 30 and not married(gasp!)- although I am with my high school sweetheart, and so our path is certainly headed that way.
We have of course talked about children, but are both fairly sure it is not in the cards for us. I have completely blocked Fallopian Tubes, so I have about a 0% chance of becoming pregnant naturally. This is not something that I broadcast, and my boyfriend is the only one who knows. I know there are other ways, but a part of me feels that maybe it just isn't meant for me. It still stings my heart when I hear of friends and relative's pregnancies, and I have been told that I am selfish for not 'trying harder', selfish for not wanting kids, and that all around I'm not worth as much as women who have kids (yes, this was said to my face).
The fact is, I am happy with my life, I love my boyfriend, and I know that we will be just fine-just the two of us. I have learned that we are in the minority, and some people just will not come to grips, or even respect our position, and I just let it go. I'm not living my life to please everyone else.
Don't feel pressured into not having or having kids. It's o.k. not to know definitively! You are young, and you will be just fine no matter what you choose!

I didn't want children until I was about thirty and then I knew for sure that I wanted children and marriage even though I was single at the time. As soon as we got married we started trying.

I agree with the responses of many of the women here before me. I just found out 3 days ago that for sure that I now have endometriosis and it gave me a crisis of my own in the child department as well and I'm only 21.
I think something like this is the kind of thing that gives you those thoughts of you need to figure things out this very minute or you are going to have those feelings of regret. It is a very personal choice and if you feel that you aren't ready, then that is what you believe. Your doctor probably is just pushing you because they want you to have the beat fighting chance for that choice as soon as you can. I just think you need to make that very clear that this is between you and your boyfriend because at the end of the day it is your choice and your future. Take that time you need. Either way this community is here to support YOU.