We are experiencing the same thing. It seems like most of the friendships we had were made through acrtiviites our kids were involved in. Now that they are grown, those people are gone also. There are not many activities/groups for people that are in this transition of life.
Try volunteering for a few hours in your community.

Good Luck

I am walking in your shoes too :) I have always wanted a better social life for my husband and myself, something for when the kids were gone. Well kids are gone but still no social life for us. I am more social my husband unfortunately not as much. I would love to hear about different things you have tried or any tips you may have? I agree volunteering is probably a good start, havent tried it yet but its on my list. I thought of church but we arent really church goers so that seemed a bit hypocritical. Any suggestions I'm all ears :)

Kathy

I'm still working on it! I have been trying to be more social with people at work during lunch, which helps - I work with a wonderful group. I'm also in the process of thinking over my involvements outside work & weeding out stuff I don't enjoy anymore so I can replace it with new interests. For example, I may join a book group just for the social aspect of it.

I'm also trying to get a support group together through craigslist but have not had any luck so far.

One thing that did work really well: in December my husband & I had an open-house type of party at our place, where we invited everyone we even remotely know. People came & went all evening, and it was nice to get to know some of them better. This might be something you can try if you enjoy putting on events.

Thanks for the tips :) You sound very social and busy already but i'm sure it wont be very long until you find the group your looking for.

Enjoy the journey :)

I'm so glad to find I'm not the only one with this problem! We had all our planning down for our empty nest. What we did pre and post was written down and we accomplished it. BUT, we realized in the past year that we didn't really plan on the Social aspect. Hubby and I had just recently said we need to widen our social circles now, but that is much easier said that done! He had boocoodles of friends in his work circle when he retired. I'm such a work-a-holic I don't take much time to socialize at work because to me, it's taking away from time I should be getting things done. We already are active in our small church we co-pastor. I did join a direct sales business in order to make friends within that organization but I still would like something that hubby and I make friends together! I'll be watching here for all y'alls success and ideas! We can DO this!

Kim Steadman
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"The Re-Feathered Nest - Helping mom discover her new purpose after the kids fly the coop"

We just said this morning that "well, they aren't going to find us, we are going to have to find them".
I have been longing for get togethers like I had when I was younger. H says we may have to start hanging out with people younger than us, and I feel the opposite... That we should start meeting people older than us.
There really isn't anyone in town our age that we haven't met yet whom we can visualize actually having any fun with.
We live in a twn that is very family centered, and the people with kids.... Well, their kids are their life, and the people without kids who never had any, well. That is weird too as they don't get it.
But older people who have already been through it.... I could dig that.
Younger people are ok, but, then they start having kids!
We were at a state park today, EasterSunday, and car loads of people our age, with kids, and without, showed up....me big group took over almost the whole campground. They were all introducing themselves to each other. And they were having fun. Playing guitars, and flying kites, and using hoola hoops.....and my H and I just kinda looked at each other and said "why don't we have that?"
When I dig down deep inside, the answer sorta bothers me.
So. I have a few quirks to overcome, but I will be damned if I am not going to work on it! We need a life outside of our life. NEED.
It will be hard tho,as my H and I are both "followers". We are more apt to show up to an event than to create one.
Ugh!
Time to change!
Wopps