Empty Nests Support Group
Empty nest syndrome is a general feeling of depression and loneliness that parents/other guardian relatives feel when one or more of their children leave home. Empty nest syndrome has become more prevalent in modern times, as the extended family is becoming less common than in past generations, and the elderly are left living by themselves.
Hello,
I am a single Mom who has devoted really all to my kids, involved in their school, sports etc. Really had no life outside that except work, and now I find myself so very depressed and I know this has a lot to do with it. I lost my father almost two years ago, and with that the family dynamic changed entirely. One son is about to move out, the other is hardly home and I get little time with them. It's like I have no purpose, I have realized that depression has kicked in and I have called a counsellor. I have never felt so lost and alone, it is kind of scary. I never realized this would happen to this degree. Hoping I can hear some words of wisdom but it is nice to find a place and see that others have struggled too and I am not alone in what I feel. I just don't know what to do to fix it!
I am a single Mom who has devoted really all to my kids, involved in their school, sports etc. Really had no life outside that except work, and now I find myself so very depressed and I know this has a lot to do with it. I lost my father almost two years ago, and with that the family dynamic changed entirely. One son is about to move out, the other is hardly home and I get little time with them. It's like I have no purpose, I have realized that depression has kicked in and I have called a counsellor. I have never felt so lost and alone, it is kind of scary. I never realized this would happen to this degree. Hoping I can hear some words of wisdom but it is nice to find a place and see that others have struggled too and I am not alone in what I feel. I just don't know what to do to fix it!
I have felt sad, alone, no purpose, no confidence ever since my son moved out. I didn't even know he was thinking about moving out and got an email because of a credit check. that was how I learned of his plans. I was very hurt by that but he said he wanted to be able to tell me how he was going to manage on his own since he was still in college, etc. I never thought I would feel the way I do either. I don't feel like I matter, that I could be gone and he wouldn't even notice. My husband says that isn't true but ....... I have good days and then bad days. Right now I feel bad because my son had to work last weekend and we hardly saw him and this weekend he is going to help his roommate move the roommate's sister who is "after" my son. She has emotional issues which involve men and one time she told him she didn't trust him and that he had invaded her "safe space". That was after she had asked him to visit her. I just do not want him to be around her. Anyway, my husband also just ignores me some times which doesn't help the way I feel either. I don't have any words of wisdom == except prayer. I need to pray more when I feel this way. I plan on going to the new movie coming out this weekend, War Room. I hope it will help us. I also know I need to find some interests outside of my home and also need to leave my job. My job also depresses me greatly and contributes to my feelings of worthlessness since we are going through a big reorganization. It helps me to read of others who at least feel this way. I don't feel so alone then. sorry I can't be of more help.
I feel your pain! My youngest is sixteen and busy all the time. I feel so alone. I'm single. I just started therapy again but it's going very slowly and I feel awful. If you want to email back and forth you can email me anytime at writetopeoplearoundtheworld@gmail.com and I will answer. Maybe we can encourage each other. Life has to get better!
Lori