Empty Nests Support Group

Empty nest syndrome is a general feeling of depression and loneliness that parents/other guardian relatives feel when one or more of their children leave home. Empty nest syndrome has become more prevalent in modern times, as the extended family is becoming less common than in past generations, and the elderly are left living by themselves.

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alijoezack
alijoezack
so my twins have been gone a month and a half but feels like years. i need some kind of reassurance that they are ok. they are so introverted and dont come home and dont go out. when i ask them if they are ok they say yup and that is it. i dont get any other feedback. im really nervous that they arent ok. im going to visit with one sunday to bring as he calls it provisions but the other one said no he has a gaming event from 9-9. i cant imagine them being ok away from each other. they were inseperable for 19 years. maybe its just me. any advice would be greatly appreciated.
thinksRAstinks
thinksRAstinks
I understand how you feel. Unfortunately (or maybe not) there comes a time when our children need to learn their own coping skills. It's time for us to step back and acknowledge we can't make it all better. Further more - we don't have to make it all better anymore.
It is a very hard adjustment.
bcp65
bcp65
hi,well lm soon to be an empty nester,but l wanted to say on your twins,lm a triplet and had to move away from my sisters when l was ,26, was hard because we were close ,but you get your own life,and become independant,so l think its good for them,oviously they are okay,just having them out ofthe house must be quiet,but lm sure you raised them well and they are just meeting new people,makes life interesting,they will be okay.
Sarahsma
Sarahsma
I understand BIG time. My doctor said I have put so much emphasis on my children. I have an identity issue I guess, twins are so time consuming and for whatever reason its harder on us moms. I started working out but beyond that I am barely productive, anxiety and depression are hard.
bookwoman
bookwoman
If you let them know that they can always talk to you about anything, they'll know the door's open. I've reached the conclusion that this is really all a parent can do once they've reached adulthood.

It's hard. I'm fortunate in that I have a job I like, which provides a distraction on days when I'm missing all of us being together. Having commitments that require me to be someplace really helps.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I could empathise with you.My son went off to the Uni in Sept last year,but I & my husband had gone to see him off.When I returned things were not so bad.But recently ,in fact after his 1st visit home( christmas) I am missing him more.I keep needing reassurance that he is well...want to know the little details.However,I guess boys are very frugal with their details as compared to girls....I think so,I may be wrong.