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so, I work at a pricey restaurant as an assistant chef (I guess working in the food business is kinda odd for someone with ED and maybe I'm just asking for trouble). Today we catered a wedding, which meant there was wedding cake, and the wedding party never keeps the leftover center parts of the tiers of their cake so there is a ton that just gets thrown away. I knew I would be happier not eating it, because I would risk binging afterwards, but the head chef asked me to make a few to-go boxes of cake. while cutting the cake, one of my other bosses (she's related to the owner and she coordinates the kitchen and servers during catered parties) saw me cutting large chunks of cake and putting them into boxes. She acted very angry and told me to stop taking all the cake, which I told her I was just boxing it up for the head chef and that I didn't want any of it, but she continued to bug me with rhetorical questions like "are you going to take that whole tier of cake?" I don't think she was -trying- to be mean or anything, and no one knows I have an ED, but still, it really bugged me.
This is a saying used in 12 step recovery rooms. People have different issues within them. The person who kept asking you about the cake had an issue. It is not your issue. Although annoying and plays on your insecurities about food, this was about her and not you. So don't wear her insecurities and problems around your neck. Let them go because it's really not about you and what you were doing.