Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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EmmaammE
EmmaammE
Im slowly being signed off sick from work and my line manager has asked if she can call my mum and talk to her to try and help her understand how ill i am. Im not sure what to do because i havent been entirly truthful with my mum and shes already quite stressed about it, and it might be a bit weird coming from someone she has never even met before. but on the other hand my line manager works with people who have eds so could help her to understand how to handle things and she is a mum so it would be kinda from one mum to another. Wot would you do if it was you???
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you should tell her yourself then let her speak to your manager to clear up anything that you aren't able to explain. Good Luck
deleted_user
deleted_user
im not sure how i would feel. i'd imagine it was some sort of relief knowing that someone wants to help you start your recovery... but at the same time it would be scary because your little "secret" will be exposed.

its a hairy line.. mixing work with personal life. me being paranoid, i would always wonder if it would come back to hurt me professionally. might be best when you are ready to tell your parents yourself. if you are that close with your boss, maybe ask her for advice.. but i wouldn't mix the two.

maybe this is the push you need to start your recovery process. it always feels good to have someone watching your back. good luck. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
It may well help your Mum to know that someone else understands you and what you are going through and releive some of her stress. As you know I spend a great deal of time understanding this illness and getting my daughter the best care and give her the support that I can, I know that I am very rare, but as a Mum I would be delighted to know that someone else had my daughters best interests at heart too. xx
EmmaammE
EmmaammE
Well i spoke to my mum about my line manager calling her and she said that would be really good and she would really appreciate it, so ive given my permission for her to call on the condition she doesnt tell my mum anything that i havent already told her that way i can talk to my mum in my own time.