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ann54
ann54
yesterday a real estate agent came to the house, I had seen her maybe 4 years ago and the first thing she said to me was how great I look, how thin I am and how did I do it. this just feed directly into my fight lately with the need to be noticed again, with thoughts of losing so more weight to get attention, I feel invisible. I have been eating and I have noticed that when I exercise, all forms, I am exhausted after and cant do the things I lie, outside, for the length I used to. I am at a stable weight, though the lowest on the "range", and will not allow myself to gain anything. I cant get over how she reinforced to me that I can get attention and now I want to even more. I feel so alone and lonely and unwanted.
kathywonders
kathywonders
That is indeed a difficult situation for you - the stressful business of moving house getting mixed up with your appearance and eating issues. I`m glad you realise the "sick part" of your reaction. Selling house and moving is a huge event in your life and youll need all the strength you can find to cope with all thats involved. Its not just calories - there are so many nutrients you need from food for your physical and mental well-being. Dont cut back. Please keep on eating!
CeeCee4
CeeCee4
People do not realize what is going on in your own personal life. I used to get that all the time, "Your always thin, you look great, what's your secret, how do you work out" ect...
I am very forward with people and just ask that we do not talk about the subject of weight because it bothers me. Normally 9/10 people stop right there and do not bring it up.
kathywonders
kathywonders
Good approach CeeCee:)
ann54
ann54
thank you both! I actually ended up telling her that what I am doing and did was unhealthy I have an eating disorder. she was very understanding and seemed to "get" it. I just got very upsetting news about the price to sell my house at, low 100s, many thousands less then I paid, my mortgage isn't far from what I could get!!! I have things that need to be done, I have mold in the basement, might be black mold, I am so overwhelmed and upset
kpsurfersfan
kpsurfersfan
Sorry to hear about your house news. What can be done about the mould? What other things can be done, DIY, to spruce up the property? Is there someone who can help you with this process, like a friend or family member?

Try not to tackle ALL the problems at once; break them down into "bite size" pieces if you can, Ann.

Thinking of you. Hang in there, this too will pass and you WILL get through this )
CeeCee4
CeeCee4
That's awful :( maybe there is something that can be done about the mold? If you get it removed maybe that would be worth the investment?
ann54
ann54
I have to get rid of the mold, esp. if it is black mold, it is very bad to breath, toxic over time. I have someone coming tomorrow and give me a free estimate and look all around the basement. the only 2 bedrooms seems to be the problem... I just finished working myself to the ground outside, hot and sunburned, I was out there 5 hours and before that walked nala 40 minutes. it was like I was poscessed or something. I know I like to finish things but it was crazy. eating lunch now, didn't have any breakfast either. I will never learn.
kathywonders
kathywonders
Mould problems can be big ones. I dont know what property law is like where you live but in some countries you can be liable to pay for the demoulding treatment for some time even after you have sold the property if you havent told the buyer about the problem. Its nasty but I suppose you have to see to it before you sell.

As Kim suggests with so much going on it would be good to break down all the things facing you into bite sized pieces. Perhaps writing them down in a list or as some sort of "project plan" would help keep things from boiling over.

Take care! Eat well!
Cindy264
Cindy264
I lost over 100 lbs. I never tried to lose it. I have a big problem with people commenting about it. Most are acquaintances. I try to change subject or walk away. Its something i dont want to discuss. People ask questions and i dont want to discuss eating disorder. My Dr gets my mad cause he doesnt understand. Its great to him. Im still fat so it cant be a problem.