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thinking about telling my mom *tw*

jasgall
jasgall
by this point, most every person i have daily contact with or am extremely close to knows of my eating disorder. everyone, that is, except my mom and brother.

bryan is rail thin and he has no sympathy for those of us who struggle with weight.

my mom would probably be able to sympathize, but i have hesitated to tell her because i started my ED behavior when she started abusing me. i'm afraid she'll think i'm blaming her for my ED. i'm afraid we'll fight. i hate it when we fight. i always feel horrible afterward. this usually leads to a binge.

my eating disorder has escalated to the point where i am seriously considering therapy. even though i haven't binged in a while, the thoughts are ALWAYS there. and lately i have been thinking about purging a lot.

she will find out sooner or later, so what do i do? help!
campdaffy
campdaffy
I can understand where you're coming from. This is why I haven't told my parents yet either. I have the same fear of them thinking I'm blaming them.

Therapy is helping me and would most likely help you out a bunch. You'll most likely hit some walls in therapy but if you find a good therapist they'll help you get through the rough times. I'm at that point of hitting walls.

I think that at times I may be hurting myself more by not telling my parents but just not at that point yet.

I'm here if you ever need to chat just let me know. Hope this helps you out in some positive way.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think opening up to her can be a good thing, and it would take some weight off your sholders....and have you looked into therapy? I still think that it would be really good for you...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Because I am me, I'm going to be blunt with you. If you have an eating disorder you need therapy. it is true for every single person with ED. Something is obviously wrong inside of you, and the fact that you're restricting/binging/purging says that you can't handle it in a healthy manner on your own. All therapy is, don't know why this isn't clear, is receiving help in getting through all of that, and learning how to take care of yourself (mentally and physically). I'm not saying that just for you, it goes for everyone.

Telling or not telling your mom is a hard decision (not that I had to make it with my stupid effing friend not keeping her mouth shut). Try making a chart of positive effects of telling your mom, and possible negative effects of telling your mom. It's scary, but there's not a doubt in my mind that you're brave enough to make that choice.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i agree u do need some kind of help someone to talk to about anything an ed is a horrible thing but as u know its alot of the time now even about food its about other things that are going on and u feel like food is the only thing u can control so u do..u should speak with ur mom she is ur mom she will prob be upset no mom wants to hear that her baby has an ed or anything that will hurt them but its better if u tell her than if someone elts does and u said the ed started when she abused u i am sorry to hear that but make it clear to her its not her fault at all if that is how u feel and if u feel like it is her fault than say so u r entilted to feel how ever u wanna feel and no on shuld tell u difff

im here if u wanna talk
jessica