Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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ebrady87 11/20/2008

So i don't know if this is the right place to put this, but i'm thinking that there are more people out there, in here, that would relate. So yesterday I put a lil question on yahoo answers to try reach some people to see what their experiences were with IP centers and stuff, and kinda wrote some stuff about whats going on with me. the majority of the people that answered the question really freakin angered me. They were like, just eat, geez, or like i dont get why its such a struggle to eat everyday and take a multivitamin JMHO... i honestly feel that people that have no idea what the hell they are talking about shouldnt answer a question to someone that is honestly looking for some help. like it really pissed me off. YEHAh if i didn't have a problem eating a fucking sandwich every day i wouldnt be asxking for some damn advice. jesus effin christ. way to make me feel like a freak. its just so stupid. sorry i just had to get that out.

deleted_user 11/20/2008

hey
hunni i hav to say i completely agree with u, people do make some hurtful and harsh comments dont they...i hate it,
maybe try and stick to DS with questions like that!! so it dusnt affect u in a negative way.
i hope ure ok
take care
xoxo
em

deleted_user 11/20/2008

A lot of people have so many misconceptions of eating disorders, especially anorexia. People have very certain ideas on what anorexics should look like, how they talk, how they act etc. I've actually been told, no word of a lie, that I'm "not skinny enough" to be anorexic.
I personally blame the media and sites like proANA for putting it out there that eating disorders are a lifestyle choice. For some people, not eating is an active decision but for those who suffer from an eating disorder, this just isn't the case.

People are just so stupid about things they don't understand. Their bodies tell them they're hungry and they eat, that's a natural reaction to them and they find it hard to believe that with us, it's different.

Not everyone is like that and don't worry, once you've found someone who'll support you through your ED, they will stick with you no matter what :)

deleted_user 11/20/2008

Ok I totally understand this... Im anorexic and people that dont understand why cant you just eat... Its not that I dont want to eat its just I cant that much... They dont understand how our mines work and its ED really not us... I cant explain it any better... They just dont understand...

deleted_user 11/20/2008

you are right people just dont get it....but its like anything else until youve walked in my shoes do not judge.....im not sure why people think they can comment on our size or what we eat but they feel some how that they can.....its hurtful sometimes and down right frustrating all the time, but try to just shrug it off and know that they are not trying to be mean they are just not educated

deleted_user 11/20/2008

oh i would never open up to someone who doesnt have significant knowledge about EDs, let alone seek their advice. I wouldnt make yourself vulnerable like that again. in fact, i dont think you should go back to your yahoo question and read anymore responses, they're only going to make you feel bad. their ignorance is not going to help you.

deleted_user 11/20/2008

I'm sorry you had such bad feedback. But people who don't have an ED or a loved one with ED really have no clue. They think it's all about weight and looking good when in reality that is far from the truth. Try to look for ED answers here or with a therapist. That will save you a lot of misery.

deleted_user 11/20/2008

You will get those types of answers from peeps who don't have an eating disorder or are just ignorant with respect to ED's. It's not really their fault.....I mean if they have no understanding of what eating disorders are about they really do thing 'well why don't you just eat a friiggin sandwich or something!?' You are better to post on boards like this one where people understand and you won't be judged. *hugs*

deleted_user 11/20/2008

I have 2 comments:

1st, Ive been on message boards and other types of online communication. PPL are very rude when you are not in person and they dont have to look at you. It just comes with the territory.

2nd, of course ppl dont understand. PPL couldnt understand why my mom drank, or why my dad couldnt just eat until her was full and stop....

I know it makes you angry, it does me too. All we can do is move on and find the good ppl who do understand...

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