Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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rayofhopes 01/04/2009

So my dad knows all about my problem, he knows iv been seeing a therapist and now im on prozac and yesterday he told me that my mum would be really upset if she knew he knew and i didnt tell her.. (i told my dad not to say anything to my mum)

about a year ago i told them what was happening and they helped me through it..even my mum... but now she thinks everything is fine and i dont want to disapoint her by telling her im still doing it...

what would be the right words to tell her and how would i tell her.. i dont know how to just bring the subject up...

thanks love felicity xxx

deleted_user 01/04/2009

Write a letter and tell her how you are struggling again. You NEED to tell her. Not hiding behind your ED and being open and accountable for your behaviors is the first step to healing. You need the support honey:) Just be honest and don't downplay it. Lots of luck. xxoxx

rayofhopes 01/04/2009

thanks sweetie... arrgh im scared but im gunna do it!! :) xxx

deleted_user 01/04/2009

tell her while being sensitive to her feelings so she doesnt believe it was her fault or she has failed you in some way (as moms often do) be honest and remind her you love her so much and hope for her support as you fight this thing.

deleted_user 01/04/2009

You can do it! I always found letters easier for me...
Good luck, you are doing the right thing.

deleted_user 01/04/2009

I understand why you are scared, but not doing it will make you feel worse in the end. Good luck!

deleted_user 01/04/2009

I would say do it but take your time. Breathe and sit back before you just blurt it out.

And as Freedom said make sure you are sensitive to her feelings as well.

Also you need to be sure you are ready to hear what she has to say before you tell her.

She wants to help you of course! But she may not be able to help herself from having a cow at you first!

deleted_user 01/04/2009

I know you dont want to disappoint her... but your family needs to understand this is an illness... one that is always with you, it doesnt go away...

listen it might be good for her to figure this out. she needs to know youare human and tryin to balance it all out...

good luck and be proud for what you have accomplished...

rayofhopes 01/04/2009

thank you all for your help! :)

i told her tonight and she told me she already knew i was still doing it but didnt know what to say...

she was really insensitive and told me there is no need for me to look the way i do when there is food around and that i look like iv just come out of a concentration camp.... that actually really hurt.. i wanted her supposrt not to be insulted! blaaaahh why is this soo hard!!! love felicity xxx

deleted_user 01/04/2009

aww Felicity, I think you look gorgeous, I really do...

she is being insensitive bc she just doesn't understand....

Ive been learning about this disorder for a few weeks, and wow has it opened my eyes !

Im proud of you for trying to get better ! keep at it for YOU.

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