Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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Baka_senpai 01/02/2017

My name is Claire. I am a 25 year old who is very new to online routes of recovery. I see a therapist and have tried group therapy but I don't feel like I get anything out of those so I am going to give this a try.

I just recently told my mother that I have been suffering from an eating disorder since my sophomore year of high school. I have been stressing back and forth on if to tell her or not. I didn't want the over bearing reaction but I got the polar opposite instead. Nothing. No reaction. I've told multiple people close to me and I'm not sure if they just don't understand how debilitating an eating disorder can be, but no one has responded in a loving, interested manor and it makes me feel lonely and small. It makes me second guess my eating disorder- maybe it isn't a big deal I have one? My eating disorder brain ( as I like to envision it) wants to purge just to show her that it is real.

I am hoping by coming here that I can find people with similar problems that can give me good advice. I hope I can help others too. :) happy new years everyone!

LP0126 01/02/2017

Welcome Claire! What a great step reaching out and looking for support elsewhere as well. It sounds like you're doing all the right things as far as therapy and trying group. I too have struggled w feeling like my family or many people, other than me treatment team, can/want to acknowledge the toll my ED takes on my life and the seriousness of it. The ED in my head also then tries to minimize and say "you see, everything you're doing is ok, it's not a big deal!". Keep fighting that voice. You know the ED is only looking to destroy you.

This is a wonderful group here and I'm happy to have you joining us! Feel free to message me if you'd like to talk more, I'm always looking for more people to be in my world!

LuckyEmpath 01/02/2017

Welcome! I also think its a great step finding this group and sharing. Lots of supportive and understanding people here.

I believe, and have found to be true for me, that eating disorders are coping mechanisms so I don't have to feel. Based on your mothers reaction I am not surprised why you needed this coping mechanism in the first place. When we binge/purge/starve we are trying not to feel. It has taken me years to learn to feel and I am at a point now where I can recognize what Im feeling when I decide to over eat. Its a process and Im glad you are working hard to heal your ED. You can heal and you deserve to heal.

((Hugs))

Dancinggirl 01/02/2017

Hi and welcome to the group. You did a great job telling us what is going on with you. I am sorry you are having a hard time with this. This is a nice group to be in, so when you are feeling down you or just need a little help please keep coming on and posting and we will help you out. Hugs Laya

CeeCee4 01/02/2017

I have been in the same boat. Unless your on deaths door step, people have no real care about it. I don't think they understand the struggle of an eating disorder unless they have one. It's like they have see it to believe it. No one's with you when you purge or take a laxative or over eat or skip a meal. We are so screative about it, no one would notice! Double edged sword. But that's great that you opened up. I think admitting it out loud to others and being honest holds ourselves accountable. If you didn't tell anyone then you could.continue on the damaging path. So that's a great step towards a healthy life without eating disorder! Great job :) I found the support group horrible people's manipulative and i.couldn't stand hearing.others or at least the people that were in that group. This online.forum has been the best outlet for me yet. I can't afford.private therapy.

LP0126 01/03/2017

I agree w CeeCee that people are very ignorant to EDs. We exhaust ourselves expertly hiding our behaviors from those around us and are often sadly very good at it. Most ppl only know emanciation as an ED and don't understand only a very small set of ED suffered "look" ill. I'm struggling w that concept in my life currently. I wish it was different..... I hope you keep posting here, this group has been one of the best things to happen in my recovery.

IDB156 01/03/2017

Welcome! This is an amazing group to be in, I have found nothing but support, encouragement, and at times I've desperately needed it, strength. ((Hugs)) I couldn't agree more with everyone, the fact is that ED really have no particular size. I think that is one big misconception about ED that keeps us telling ourselves that what we do is okay. (Because we don't "look" sick) When in reality we know it's far from okay. Lots of love to you!

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