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jasgall
jasgall
i'd really appreciate some advice on this one...

i called my doctor today, and was informed that she has moved to a city several hours away. so i had to change doctors. my only problem is that my medicaid program has no more female doctors listed. i'm stuck with a guy. i haven't had a male doctor since i was 16 and i am VERY uncomfortable with the idea. how am i supposed to discuss my ED with him? or ANYTHING with him really? i really wish i had some form of my own insurance so i could decide where i go, etc. help me please! i'm really uncomfortable with seeing a male doctor. i really don't know why i'm posting. just to express my feelings i guess. ugg.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My doctor, psychiatrist and therapist are all male and I can trust and confide in them everything that bothers me. I had a female therapist before then but she quit my insurance so I was very insecure when I went to my first appointment with a man but he was so kind and made me feel at ease immediately. So just give it a try.
Summerwind81
Summerwind81
I gotta agree with Karrin; most of my doctors and therapists over the years have been men, and I've never had a big problem with any of them. If your new doctor is a general practitioner, he may know less about eating disorders than a specialist, but I'm sure he'll refer you on any issues he's not informed about.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You cannot cast judgement until you give it a try like the others said. I am totally with you about male doctors - they make me feel very uncomfortable and I tend to not speak up b/c of this fear. But I have learned to let go and let God...........things will work out. Make the appt soon and go! You need to take care or "YOU". Hugs:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
it might not be as bad as u think. u could always just give it a try.
its just negative thoughts that r filling ur head up with stuff, sometimes we all have to face our fears, and u will be surprised at the outcome. we always fear the worse will happen, but if we dnt try then we cant possibly know what will happen or how we feel.
good luck and i hope things go well for u. x x x
deleted_user
deleted_user
i agree totally with the others. my main psy/ therapist is a man, have seen him 13 yrs. and he is wonderful, kind, and he lliterally has saved my life a couple of times. it is always scary trying any new doctor, but please go, it may be the best thing you can do for yourself.
peanutzz
peanutzz
Hi Fallon.
I'm another one with male psych. And it was uncomfortable at first but now he's really predictable and familiar, like an old blanket kind of. He's not very good with ED, but he tries anyways. I hope you can at least try with an open mind, and then if you aren't comfortable you can reassess?
tuxedomck
tuxedomck
Fallon-

Take a risk and try it- he might suprise you and be easy to talk to! Like a lot of the others, my main therapist over the years was a male, my current psychiatrist is a male, and my PCP up until he moved a month ago was a male as well. I trust them like my life depended on them (which it kind of does lol) and they are wonderful.

I just recently switched PCP's and now have a female- she is great too. But then again I had a female PCP while in college and I HATED her. So it really depends.

Please try to stay open with the idea of a male doctor!!!
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