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my mum.... trigger

rayofhopes
rayofhopes
last night she was harping on at me saying that she couldnt support me at this weight..

she was asking me about my therapist and i told ehr i wasnt going back as things are better when i dont go to see her and that i feel she patronises me. she wants me to go back but she wants to come with me.. i dont really feel this is practicle do yoou?

Also im going out tonight so i really want to restrict really bad so i dont eat all the calories im going to drink tonight.. i feel so messed up!!

love felicity xxx
deleted_user
deleted_user
You mom cant control you, but I do agree that you should be talking to a professional to get to the root of the ED. It is the only way out. Maybe try someone new. Tell your mom you appreciate her concern, but if you dont want her to go with you then let her know that is not good for you. Just tell her to be there for support. My mom is the biggest trigger so I know how hard it is. Good luck! xxoxx
deleted_user
deleted_user
its not a good idea for your mum to go with you ..its privet and what you say stays that way..you would feel like you couldnt say what you wanted...if you dnt like yr therapist find another.it shouldnt feel like shes patronising you..it can take a few gos before you find one you like..but you do need to go .btw a lot of mums are like that i think its in the contract!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
ah my mom is a trigger for me. Sounds like she loves you but doesnt really understand ED. Dont restrict today... binge drinking is even more dangerous than binge eating, and with little food in your stomach it will only make it worse. limit your drink calories not food!
deleted_user
deleted_user
gosh when you all find a solution let me know !!!

I adore my father, I love him to pieces... but my need for his approval is a huge problem for me...

I have no advise... just wanted to tell you that you are not alone...

lots of ppl go through this...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Felicity,
You are absolutely right, you are of an age now where you can be responsible with your food intakes and maintaining a healthy weight for height. You Mum just wants to help you but its not about food anymore, its about emotional development. The forum for that is Family Therapy where you both can sit down and have open and frank conversations about the type of role you expect your mother to play in your recovery support network. Of course Mum gets worried, thats what we do, but I think she needs some support from professionals too. xxxxx