Eating Disorders Support Group

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I need help guys.

omgMuffins
omgMuffins
So, I met a boy and it was amazing. For a couple of days. We're sort of dating. I like him. He's sweet. He's great. Except for when he's not. He's been clean for just over two months. He is in a bad situation with his family. He doesn't have a job. And as of now, he doesn't have a place to stay. He has a temper. He's made me cry three or four times and I'm already "scared" that I'll do something to upset him. I know this won't work long term. Maybe it's the stress of the moment, maybe not. And I know he's bad news, all around. These are classic signs of what not to date, right? But the thing is I can't break up with him because of his mental stability and him barely hanging on. He almost killed himself a couple of nights ago. On top of all that, I'm struggling so hard with my own eating, my own sanity. I can't take his mood swings and mine. I've been working so hard not to fall back into a hardcore eating disorder, but this is becoming too hard. What am I supposed to do with him? For him? For myself?
deleted_user
deleted_user
You dont need extra stress added to your life right now. and if he is threatening your stability and recovery, maybe being with him right now isnt the best thing. its better to end it now when you guys arent too involved than to completely crush both of you when you are REALLY involved with eachother.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are NOT responsible for somebody else's deeds. Just like nobody but you is responsible for your ed behaviors. Somebody might be responsible the young man started having mental problems but he is choosing to get help or not, to want to get better or not, to want to kill himself or not. Don't let him guilt you into staying with him. On the contrary he sounds like real bad news and I hope you will be strong enough to let him go and focus on yourself.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'll start this off by saying NOTHING I am about to type is probably what you want to hear. But it's the truth, and coming from someone who was in a volatile relationship with a recovering alcoholic / cocaine / crack addict. Two unstable beings SHOULD NOT be in a relationship. Neither you, or this fellow have a grip on your own problems and are not supporting one an other at this moment. You may believe you're a positive for him, but by the sounds of it, he is manipulating you into believing you're "saving him." Why can't you break up with him? If he is threatening to hurt himself, kill himself, or anything in between IF YOU DO LEAVE HIM then that's an empty threat. Sorry, but it is. And if he has hurt himself or tried to kill himself then you have every right AND SHOULD BE CALLING THE HOSPITAL TO HAVE HIM ADMITTED. None of this is your fault. He needs help and YOU NEED HELP. Wanting to be apart from a negative situation like this is NOT A BAD THING.

I was in a relationship like this for two years. It escalated into severe verbal abuse, him taking my finances, physical abuse, numerous police calls due to domestic violence, and me - on repeated occasions - having to lock myself in the washroom with a knife because he came home drunk and high. I blamed myself, I hurt myself, and to this day am still recovering from the emotional abuse. You need to do what is best for you and do it sooner rather than later.