Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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crystalicbabe 03/06/2018

I dont have any idea what I should do about anything. Knowing he cheated hurts so much I can't even begin to contemplate any worse feeling. It hurts so much I'm physically ill. I'm so upset. and to make it worse he doesn't know that I know about it. It's clear based on his behaviour that something is bothering him. I can only hope that he's bothered by the fact that he messed up and he regrets it. I hope we can move past this because I love him so damn much it hurts. We have a daugter and a life together and I don't want that to change. I wish I could just go back and make it all better. I can't help but to feel like I did something to push him to this and that I've failed as a person. I'm blaming myself again. I know that I didn't force him to cheat but I feel like I caused this somehow. I hate that it's come to this. I just want to make it all go away.

IVowed 03/07/2018

I don't know what to say bec. I have never been in such a position.
But I know that time will heal and you will eventually have to talk this through. sooner or later. if you really love each other, it will pass. One human being can't make enough mistakes.

red47640 03/07/2018

I'm sorry you're going through this right now, but I'm certain you will do what is best for you and your daughter. Being cheated on is a very painful experience. I hope you can move past this. Thinking of you.

goldfinch 03/12/2018

I have been there! Trust me...it took me so long to believe this of myself, but it is NOT YOU. You did nothing to push him to cheat. You didn't fail, or fall short, or not measure up to his standards. The truth is, HE MADE A VERY BAD DECISION. If he comes to you and confesses, I would advise you to seek counseling *together*. If he isn't a man enough to do that, think of what will be best for your daughter. The stress of living with this and holding it in will make you physically ill. You need to be your best possible self for your daughter's sake. Maybe that means confronting him and working through things. Maybe it means finding someone who loves you more than you can possibly comprehend. I don't know--everyone's situation is different. I know now that I am with someone new, I have never been happier. He never makes me cry and I feel so much better about myself that every other aspect of my life has been affected positively. I hope you know that whatever you have to deal with, you *are* strong enough to handle it! Hang in there. ❤

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