Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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hurtful!! trigger maybe?

rayofhopes
rayofhopes
the other night on the phone my boyfriend was saying that if i dont want to get better thn he cant be with me becasue he doesnt know ther person that i am... i have told gim so many times i want tog et better and i was doing really well over xmas then i came to bk to uni and purged everyday.. he says im not tryin...

i dont think he understand that i am trying and by me telling him iv done it is wanting to not give him false hope!! arrgh what do i do? i dont know what to do , think, say, feel.... i do feel hurt at the thought he doesnt want to be with me.. bllllaaaah i hate this!!1
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sometimes people love us too much to see us 'hurt' ourselves. He can never really understand what we go through. Have you tried giving him anything to read on the subject?
rayofhopes
rayofhopes
well when i went to see the therapist he came with me and read a whole book of info on it when i was in there and looks it up on the internet.. so i feel like he should understand!! he should want to be with me thru this surly and not just leave me!?? xx
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think it's really hard for our loved ones to see us hurting, espeically when they think we're doing it ourselves. They don't understand our mindset when we are engaging in these behaviors. So they just want us to stop.

I do hope you'll stay honest with him though. ED loooooves secrets. ED would love it if your support was gone and you hid your behaviors from your boyfriend. Can you talk to him about it? Tell him how important it is to you that you're being honest. And that it'll help you to recover.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe he was just 'thrashing' out if you know what i mean. I agree, keep talking to him, explain that YOU want to get better, it's ED that wants to keep you ill, and that you need his support.