i dont think your horrible at all..
and you dont trigger me, if people find you triggering they shouldnt read you posts.
And if they have a problem with you they should message you, not do it behind your back cause that is low!

woah missy drama queen please remove your crown. No one that has ever Pm's me that you're full of shit would ever come forth. They just won't do it. Give it up. Did I mention that you're going to die? Think I did. Loves and you know it. xo

Since you're on the road to suicide does it really matter what effect you have on others? except to make them happy that they arent you? Hey girl, reach out about your eating disorder instead of what people think of you. What others think of you Melissa is none of your business. xo

i dont know what is going on, but, maybe being on this board at the moment is not a good idea? if people think you are being negative then maybe you are still in ED mode and still have alot of toxic ed thoughts and not quite in recovery mode yet. if you are not ready to go into recovery, then go somewhere else because water and oil do not mix if you know what i mean.

i dont hate you, just so you know. you deserve the same respect as everyone else.

if others are being nasty behind your back............well..............they are doing the exact same thing that they claim that you are doing which is childish and is like telling someone not to yell when they are the ones yelling it out. gabrador, what you said was really mean and it sounds like you are doing it a bit too.

When it comes to someone killing themself, no I'm not very nice. Nor do I plan to be. xo

Gab - I have sent a PM to you re Missy and your chatting to her online. I am not prepared to put the transript what you and Missy have said and vice versa. It is not the place for the board. As for telling Missy she is going to die is not your place to predict or most of us here would end up dead. Perhaps she will, perhaps she wont or perhaps someone else here will die before her. However, yes ana can kill, no argument. Is that not Missy's choice though?

Cheekygirl, what gives you the right to say if you are not actively trying to recover then we have no place here. I dont recall it being one of the group rules. I know your post was not meant to offend.

So what, I have had ana for 36 years and I come to this board for hope and inspiration that one day I will take a baby step. Unless you or others have struggled with an ED as long as me (and no I am not boasting about it) then you cant tell how I feel about my doubt to recover.

I am so getting tired of bitching, members targeting other members. No not all of us will ever like everybody, that's life. However, we all have EDs and ought to be supporting not bitching. It is a total waste of time and energy that could be put to better use.

I work 60-70 hours a week but I find time to post or read other members posts. If I didn't want recovery I would spend what little time I have doing something else.

I wanted to keep this off board but after Gabs reply to me I am posting it. Guess I must be my turn to be targeted as it seems to read as a relative newcomer and dont know what has gone on in the past I am not entitled to say something.

Gab, what the hell is going on with you and Missy. I read the transcript when you both chatted. You said enough in it to seriously upset Missy.

Missy and Lily will never get on. We both know that not everyone gets on, it is no different in the group.

Your posts were probably deleted by the moderator and I totally understand why. Trigger police, threatening to report Missy etc. They needed to stay off the board. Can I suggest if you want to target someone you do it through PM.

As to your reference about Missy not wanting recovery was out of order. You made it sound like well if you are not looking towards recovery then you ought not be in the group. I have the same issues as Missy in that I want recovery but after 36 years I am not sure I can. I stay with the group because I believe one day something may click to gie me enough motivation to take the first baby step.

The group is starting to become a very unpleasant place to be. Considering we all have EDs, we all need each other.


Gab
Thanks for the feedback. Welcome relative newcomer. Missy and I have been at this same issue for two years. I can't go into details about the what she's been messaging but it's been so underimining and anything to keep anyone else sick. Have you seen her actually try to help someone in their recovery? Didn't think so. Thanks for the concern but i think it's best you focus on something else. I have spoken personally to her mother, and Missy doesn't tell the truth. What she posts here is mainly lies when it comes to her eating disorder. It makes me very angry to see people support her in her dishonesty. Loves in fellowship. xo

I hate to get into the middle of drama, but I gotta say this: what ever happened to "ignore user" button. If someone is bothering you, ignore them. I've done it before. I didn't tell the person. And when I was over it, I took them off ignore. No big deal! No Feeling got hurt!

Missy, please stay. I admit I have not read any of your 'triggering" posts, and I don't know what your problems are exactly. If you are struggling or suicidal, you need this board. Don't leave or let drama get in the way.

I swear this board is the most dramatic board I'm on, and I'm on a LOT of boards. Even the Bipolar board does not have this sort of drama. I am totally convinced that it is the ED speaking and making us hypercritical of each other and extra touchy. Those are very common characteristics of someone with ED. I'm not pointing fingers, except at myself... I am a perfectionist, and tend to be offended easily. I recognise this and try to be better and rise above... it isn't always easy, let's give each other a break!

its a bit hypocritical to say that missy is killing herself, we have all been there - not ready for recovery - thats why we are on this board. We shouldnt judge people on their ED. This is a site for support

Well I definitely do not think you are a horrible triggering person! But I think you already know that!

wow.. patricia, i know you are upset but that simply isnt necessary. ppl on this board have an illness.... yelling at them doesnt make them see the light...

MIssy... I think you are a good person, and I like you. But I also dont think you have any interest in getting better and that makes me sad. There are going to be ppl who can not get too friendly with you bc they want to get better. Just like an alcoholic cant go drinking with his/her friends a recovering person from ED cant hang out with a person immersed in ED....

no body is asking you to leave as far as Im concerned but you have to face the consequences of not seeking help.... some ppl just wont be able to get too close...

To be honest Missy, I think you have upset some people with your explosive responses and I do think that you are lovely to be so stong in saying what you feel, but you do need to tone it down a touch - be a little more thoughtful and not just run in with your own reply. Being honest is one thing but being loud is another. We are all here for the same reason, so don't let your anger ruin what you have to advise others.

I must admit that I am brand new here and all I keep seeing is this drama/fight going on. I wish it was not like this. I agree with who ever said that if you have a problem with someone, use the ignore button. Not everyone can get along, I understand that, however this is a place to get help and encouragement...not to fight. So just ignore it.

Also, I did not think this support group was for those only in recovery or it would be called "Eating Disorder Recovery" We all go through highs and lows and need to Support (because it is a support group) those at their lows and give them encouragement and let them know they are not alone. We also need to give those at their high encouragement and let them know we are happy for the steps they have taken. That is how I feel and I apologize if I hurt anyone's feelings, if I did you can hit the ignore button and I won't mind. I just feel this bored needs to be more of support and less of putting down.

Take care!

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I dont think that you are awful Missy, I think thatyour brutally honest. Sometimes that's a good thing, sometimes not. I don't think it makes you a bad person but I think because of what many of us are going through, it makes us ultra sensitive(me anyways!) to certain comments. I ashamed to say that I have blown up at people at work before because they were talking about weight. They dont even know about me!!!!!!!!! I am sure they think i'm NUTS!!! It just upset me ofcourse because what I am dealing with and that was a horrible week to begin with. I felt bad after I screamed at them though because It's not there fault, and they don't have any clue about ED and I. Because of God's grace and because they are good people, they forgave me for my outburst when I apologized. My point is that there are some sensitive topics on here and Im sure it is hard for some of us to be honest and open even on here,so I think because you are so vocal and not afraid to say how you feel no matter what comes out; that it may offend a few who are already highly sensitive and vulnerable. I know that in your heart of hearts do not mean it as harshy as some may have been taking it. Anyway, people lash out when they are on defense and obviously people are upset at some comments you made and other comments that are from whomever, but I jus askt that you forgive any harsh comments made about you on here from people that got angry at you in the heat of the moment. I hope that we can all start over and everyone will stay on this site because I personally, find it helpful and I take comfort that most people on here in some way or another know what I am going through.