Eating Disorders Support Group
Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.
I feel like I haven't been on lately and mainly because I was writing and then was sick blah blah blah. I missed it here! The holidays are really hard for me just because it's difficult to be around my parents and the in laws as well. The in laws have enormous amounts of food around every minute along with guilt, cursing, and loud laughing/yelling. My parents, on the other hand, (the facilitators of ED) are negative, judgmental, critical and least nurturing people I know. Which is worse lol? My husband said today after one day with his family he is more grateful for what he has at home. AMEN. I don't know how to cope around these times with them other than drinking or eating which leads to guilt and the loud voice of ED basically. One down, one to go. I'm so glad I have a place to go where people know what it feels like. I know I've made progress, but sometimes I feel like I make one step forward and 2 steps back. I haven't been knocked on my butt from being sick in a while and that on top of being in a funk wasn't a good combo. Oh, and I got a "you look good now but last time I saw you, you were too thin." We all know what I thought right? I'm fat now!!! That's it, I HAVE to get back to what I was back then. Eat as minimal as possible for the next week. I hate ED. I need to focus on being good to myself and not so tough. Tell ED to bite me lol
I think many of us are feeling the pressures and difficulties that come with the holidays. It's a lot - exposure to lots of friends (good for me) and family (most of them not so much so....lol) and lots of food and booze. It's a lethal combination, for sure. I find getting myself into a positive mind-frame before I have to go to these functions really help. Do some meditation before you get together with your folks and really train your mind to see the positives in them, but most importantly, yourself. That way when they start with their critical negativity your mind will be prepared to mentally shut them out.
And YES - tell that ED to bite you!!! What that person said was "you look GOOD........". Who gives a damn about the rest of what they said. Tell yourself to STOP there and drink in the compliment:)
HUGS and LOVE
Jen