I know how you feel. People who don't fully understand what you're going through just don't get it sometimes. They think they are helping but in reality they are just plain annoying. Almost the exact same thing happened with my sister and ex boyfriend. I ended up pushing them away to the point where i can't even talk to either them anymore because they always thought they knew what was best for me more than i did. That was not a high point in my life so in my eyes i recomend you either ignore them and do things at your own pace or confront them and tell them that they either need to support you or leave you alone. No one has the right to talk down to you, because in no way are they better than you, never forget that.

good luck

I am so sorry you are going through such a rough spot. I know that it makes the recovery process even harder. Hang in there! I know when the heat is on, it makes things so much harder for your disorder. Your parents words are harsh, and they hurt, but you need to believe that you have the power with in your-self to change these behaviors. Not only with your eating disorder, but with being able to talk to your family about how much they are hurting you.
Why does your mom believe you shouldn't believe your therapist or nutritionist??

If you need me.....I am here for you!!! Sending you a big hug!!

I recognise so much of what you are saying here. The first thing i notice, which is similar to me, is the need to please everyone and get approval. Ask yourself why that's so important to you? Our desire to be perfect and approved of and accepted drives our ED's. I am working on just having self acceptance, and realising that i am not responsible for other people or their reactions, only my own. I would suggest that you give your family something to read, like some advice on do's and don'ts from a website or ED recovery book and if they still persist then just don't argue, but tell them firmly and calmly that they are not helping and that the professionals know what they are talking about. Here for you honey.

im sorry to hear things are so tough... do you want to ignore your therapist and what not if not just keep going and tell your therapist what your family have said.. she might be able to give your thoughts to maybe think when your feeling so low... do you have someone to talk to face to face when your this low... try getting someone as it will help more face to face... but seriosuly well done on being top in your classes and swim team at least your not letting this ruin your future!! xx

i'm so sorry to see you are feeling this way! i have also dealt with a lot of pushing...and i also know its not fun, and it makes us feel even lower than we already do! i have put together a group with my girlfriend and its called "For Those With ED's And Those Who Care"...we put it together because i HAVE ED's, and she does NOT, but wants so badly to help and understand ED's enough to be able to support me and help me through this. if you have any interest in joining, please feel free to do so...we would be happy to have you there with us, and would also like to help you with your recovery! ((if you do want to join us, please feel free to visit my profile and my list of groups...it is in the list.))

anyway...i want to tell you, you are NOT alone in this hun! you are NEVER alone! all of us here are going through the same types of illnesses...under the same category of illnesses, anyway! some of us are B/P-ing ((i occasionally do this...but i dont eat a lot, just freak out when i eat anything at all, then vomit!)), some of us are not eating at all ((my main ED.)), and many other things...so you should know that you are not alone in this sweetie! i really hope you can take some comfort in that!
i dont suggest that you stop going to your theropist. this person is trained to be able to help you, give you advice, and to listen to how you feel.
i am wondering why your family would say this to you?!? dont they WANT you to get help, and get BETTER?!? well, i dont know what THEY want, but i know that I DO want you to get BETTER!
i am here for you hun! please take care of yourself, and again, feel more than welcome to come join us in my group...i think it would be a positive thing for you, as well as this group!

-M
**HUGS**

Why are you taking other peoples feelings on board?

OMG! Thank you guys so much for your support! It meant so much to me and now I feel so much better. I think my biggest issue is that I so much want to please my famil, even though I know that the best thing I can do right now is please my self and my recovery. My mom just hurts me so much...After I wrote this blog, we got into it again, with her telling me that she, my step-dad, and my two youngest sisters have their own little circle, and that me and my other siter are outsiders. She actualy used that word!! I seriously felt like Iwas going to go psycotic right there, but luckily I still have my husband, and he reminded me of my good qualities. I think thats what we all need...constant reminding of our good qualities and just how important we are.

Wel, anyways, thank you all for your support, I love you all here on DS And a big hug to all of you!

Hi there- I feel so much of your pain, and I know families can be so complicated- especially if you feel like you have to please them all the time and they still act insensitive. I think your sisters don't understand you don't steal their food to be malicious, it is a compulsion and an addiction that feels impossible to stop- stemming from hard emotions, anger, ANYTHING uncomfortable. Your story resonates with me because i had done really well in recovery and had a recent relapse, which makes me even harder on myself than usual (like why can't I do anything right??) If you want to talk sometime, let me know...hang in there! I'm thinking of you and sending you hugs.

I read in a book about eating disordered that most ppl with ED feel like outsiders in their families... they feel different not bc of ed, but starting young they felt like they didnt fit in...

I know I have felt that way, and Im ALWAYS trying to prove myself, but Im about done with that.