Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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kimchi618 04/14/2017

I've been bulimic since I was in college. Now I'm 28 years old and I'm still battling from bulimia. I purge more that 2x a day especially after weighing myself. Sometimes, I just end up crying after I purge cause I know what I did isnt good for me. And the same routine happens everyday.

I go to the gym now. From 190 lbs, I am now 150. And i still feel it's not enough. I still wish I was skinny. :(

Growing up in a filipino family, weight is always a big thing. Gain 5lbs in a week and people will notice it. Since I was a kid, family members and some close friends would always tell me "oh, you''ll be more prettier if your skinny" and that would hurt me a lot. I guess that's why i never had conficence growing up. Cause I know I am not skinny. I am never good enough. :(

Please help me. I wanna stop purging every single day. I am so tired of this. Sometimes I wish was dead cause everyday I feel like a total mess.

misleadingsmile 04/14/2017

I have some personal experience here...PM me if you want to talk

outdoorslife16 04/14/2017

Not sure if this will help, but I hope it does...I watched online a story about a woman who used to be a size 2 model and she was constantly turned away from modeling agencies because they said she wasn't skinny enough. She worked out 4 hours a day and limited her food intake and it was still not enough for those people. Today, she is a plus size model and very healthy. She looks better than the skinny models because she looks healthy and is proud of herself the way she is. She still goes to the gym, but she is not trying to be skinny. Being skinny didn't bring her happiness, but being her own size does. I wish everyone could feel that way, it would save them so much misery! So, there are plenty of people out here who want you to simply be yourself and not feel the need to be skinny. Skinny isn't necessarily attractive. There's more to attractiveness than that! Hope this helps, it is meant to.

LuckyEmpath 04/14/2017

I am sorry you are struggling so much right now. I am glad you reached out for support and I am glad you can see that what you are doing is not healthy for you.

I have learned that ED's are coping mechanisms we use when we don't want to feel strong feelings. This usually starts in childhood where, for various reasons, it became unsafe to express our feelings. So we pushed them down with food. Then, as we gain weight, all the insults get thrown at us, we panic and do anything to become thin again. It's a terrible cycle but if you work on the root cause - the reason you decided it was unsafe to express your feelings - you can heal the ED. Heal the root cause, learn to feel your feelings again, learn to express your feelings without hurting yourself and you won't need the ED any more. I would urge you to please work with a therapist. You can find one who specializes in ED's or find one who specializes in whatever issue/trauma you have in your past (for example: I was sexually abused so I found a therapist who specializes in that. By healing the traumas the ED is also healing). Everyone approaches it in their own way so please try therapy - perhaps a few therapists to see which one feels right - and begin your healing process. You can heal your past and you can heal the ED. ((Hugs))

forestfreek 04/15/2017

Welcome to the group.
There are many here that can relate to your struggles so I hope you will stick around for support and encouragement.
HUGS
Jen

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