How interesting to read how many members had marriages end at the 24 year mark - me too. Not a group I'm exactly "happy" to be a member of however ;)

My ex started "acting out" in the 24th year of our marriage and finally owned up to being with his current wife (his colleague and mistress then) ten days before our "make-up not break-up" 24th anniversary trip to Virginia where, if I'm not mistaken, the tourism slogan is, ironically "Virginia is for lovers". hmmmm.

So, iammine, you and I are in 2 clubs together. My ex also had an affair and is now married to an old manager of his. She can HAVE him! I always say people who have affairs deserve each other. I prefer to belong to the club of those of us who have morals and values. :) They actually had an affair for 6 years, but were so discreet, I never found out until during the divorce! I could care less now. She's been supporting his unemployed sorry you-know-what for 7 years.

Startingover2011, in your reply #12 you said seeing your EX show affection to his new wife hurt. Don't you think it was for show? And you wrote later in reply #17 he married his partner in cheating...again....public display's of affection are for show. She got the prize (a big fat unemployed cheater) surely she has to make it appear she is on top of the world. BLECH!

Welcome! I am on week 16 of separation from 21 years of marriage. I think I must be going through the anger stage as the pain seems to be coming back. I have hope that it will get better.
Good for you that you have found happiness!
Hugs to you and to all of us

I left my husband about 3 months ago. I had filed for divorce but left it up to him to make some changes in the papers and of course I have not heard from him at all.

I still get lonely and know it will take some time to adjust to being in a retirement village. But I would never
go back. I was alone when I was with him.

Hugs to all of you still going through the process. You WILL have wide range of emotions whole going through it, but where there is a future, there is always hope. Turn to God, lean on your friends and family, find an awesome counselor and you WILL come through the other side. I promise.

I know. ..you're thinking I've been out of it long enough that I don't remember the pain. Wrong! I may not feel the pain anymore, but I will never forget the feeling that my life was over and wanting to die. Yes...you read that right. I never actually tried to end my life, but I sure prayed for it. So, believe me, I have been where you are and by the grace of God, I am still here...stronger than I was before and now know what true love feels like and what was missing for almost 30 years. Some of you may choose to be happy alone. Others may give love another chance someday, but it all takes time. ..more for some than for others. Be patient with yourself, let loved ones in and you, too will find your way to a happier and more peaceful life.

Hugs to you all and God bless each and every one of you.