I understand. I blocked them on my FB account but my DD had pics with her and her Dad and his gf on hers. It is hard to see and it does hurt. Congratulations on your new grand baby.

I blocked my older 2 daughters from FB as well and they me, but they rarely use it anyway. My younger 2 daughters and I were never FB friends. You would do well to block your daughter as well or at least let your daughter know how seeing pics of them effects you. My daughters KNOW, so are pretty good about it.

oh my, that statement is so stinkin true, I've never heard it put that way but if you have kids, that's very true.

I have basically given up on Facebook (Fakebook, right?) so I don't see these kinds of things anymore, I don't need any reminders or triggers from social media sources, I get enough of those by my wondering thoughts and memories. Sending you a great big hug!!!!!

I'm sorry you are hurting. (((HUGS))) May is around the corner and will be here before you know it. I'll tell you what, that baby is going to be more fun at 6months age that one month....all they do is sleep. You will get to play with the child at what I consider one of the more fun ages. Take lots of yummy pictures of the two of you together so you can look at them when you get back so you can reminisce the sweetness

I hope that your trip will be even better than theirs! the baby will be more alert by then and you'll even get to see smiles. Sad that those photos still elicit ill feelings even so many years later but I can certainly understand. I would be the same. Have felt it myself over the past few years. Just know that jealousy over their supposed "better life" or "more money" probably isnt' worth a second of your time or thoughts. You don't know in any way how happy they are. They travel together, yes, but who knows any of the rest of their life? Pictures don't tell the whole story. HUGS!!

Congratulations, I know it bothers you. It still bothers me at times too. But that is life. One thing I do when and if I see them together (mommy and son) is smile turn around and walk away. Look at what she got, nothing but a cheater and a loser. Do you think that they are happy together. I have my doubts about that. He is staying because he has a sugar mommy. There is no trust or respect between them. There never was and never will be.

startingover - I feel your pain! I am in a similar position. My first grandchild was born last summer. Since my ex lives only 2 hours away from our daughter, he had the opportunity to see the baby amost immediately. I live in a different part of the country so it took me another week to get there. I admit I was a little jealous that my ex got to see the baby first, but it was just for one afternoon. I got to spend 2 weeks loving the new baby. Since then, I have actually spent more time with the baby than my ex even though he lives so close. My daughter does not have a very close relationship with her dad since the divorce, but she wants him to be a part of her child's life. She also has an online photo album. There are a few pictures of my ex with the baby. It does hurt to see them, but I pass over them quickly to all the "good" pictures. I am not on FB so I don't have to deal with any of that. At this point, my husband's new wife (the woman for whom he left our marriage almost 8 years ago) is not a part of my daughter's or grandchild's life ( at my daughter's request) so I do not have to see pictures of the both of them with the baby. That would be extremely painful for sure. But as time goes on and old wounds heal, that will probably change. My daughter and family are now living overseas. I hope/plan a visit at some point, but I am definitely not as well off financially as my ex is to make trips. He travels quite a bit for work so I am presuming he will get more "grandbaby" time than me. Yes, it bothers me, but I try not to dwell on it. I try to make the most of the contact we have via Skype and video chat.
I, too, feel very sad about the life milestones we are not enjoying as a couple or family. My ex and I looked forward to becoming grandparents and it makes me incredibly sad not to enjoy this stage of our life together. I see many of my friends who are still married, enjoying their adult children and grandchildren in a way that we never will. I miss us being a family so very much! I also feel replaced by the other woman, now wife. She and my ex are enjoying traveling and living the life that I thought my ex and I would be living. Again, I just try not to think about it and focus on my life and the family and friends who are an important part of my life. I know that for some people, divorce may be a welcome relief from a troubled or unhappy marriage. For me, divorce has been a very unwelcome intruder into my life.
Try not to dwell on your ex/his wife and their role in your grandbaby's life. You are Grandma, not her. Nothing can change that fact. Focus on and enjoy all the times you get to be with your daughter and baby. Find special ways to be a part of your grandchild's life. Look forward to your time in Hawaii with your new grandchild!

Thanks all for the support. Moscato...it us so nice to have someone who knows exactly what I'm feeling. You're lucky your daughter loves and respects you enough to not allow the other woman in your grandbaby's life. I could only wish. My daughters never seemed to care all that much that their father cheated on me and seemed to favor him more than me. But, he had the money, the family AND the marital home, so I couldn't win. But, I am trying to focus on the 2 weeks I will have with my new grandbaby. They, know doubt just "visited" whereas I will actually get the honor of taking care of him day in and day out for 2 weeks. Major bonding time! Oh...DD33 posted another picture of THEM today thanking Grandpa and "Auntie Jane" which I think is stupid for visiting. She should just be "Jane". Aunties are my other daughters...not HER. I have a step grandson and he just calls me by my first name...always has. If DD33 wants to refer to my dh as "Uncle John", I will ask her if baby can call him "Papa John" since the ex is being called Grandpa. I told her immediately I want my grandchildren to call me Mimi, so the two go hand in hand. I hope she agrees. Not that any of us will be a big part of his life being so far away. DD33's SO's parents live right next door, so will really be the grandparents he truly knows.

Again...thank you all for the wonderful support. Like most of you, everyone I know in real life from family to friends are all enjoying one long term marriage enjoying their adult children and grandchildren TOGETHER. I can't help but envy them. I know it's wrong to envy, but....

Moscato - your phrase "unwelcome intruder into my life" is so fitting. so many of us here feel that way unfortunately. We are just dealing with it from here on out. And it does stir up jealousy. It seems so unfair that others get to have that lasting old age family not this fractured, uneasy mess.