Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
Good Morning Folks!
My world has been CRAZY lately! Closed on my house ( had been renting then purchased) and about 2 weeks later our area flooded and we had 6-8 inches of water in the house! HOLY SMOKIES Batman!!! Think things are headed back to normal... contractor lined up, carpet picked, paint colors being considered... new doors picked out as well! Going to be a "lean" summer but God has provided very well!! And I am ETERNALLY thankful!!! Dealing with a new experience of remodeling a house!
Then the next new experience... I have been out on dates and dinner and currently have a profile on an online service. It has been nice and exciting in it's own way. Through all of that, my neighbor has been a good friend and a ton of help! Our kids have played baseball together and go to the same school. I have known him for probably 6-7 yrs thru kids'activities and on more of a friend basis since I moved onto this street in the fall of 2013. Recently things have shifted somewhat passing what I consider typically friendship. I don't kiss my friends on the lips! LOL He calls or texts most days and it makes me smile on the inside when he does. He has been a divorced single dad for about 13 yrs and (through our friendship) is aware of some of my journey back to myself since divorce. We also have mutual friends one of whom is a dear friend of mine (and she's been saying to me that we should go out... but I didn't figure he was interested in this crazy hot mess of my life) He is incredibly respectful and patient and it just feels peaceful! It feels nice to just be a woman... and have that part of me reawakened!!! I have been so busy being a mom to teenage boys, building a career to support myself and those teenage boys and completing my Masters and some additional certifications... I forgot about that part of myself! (Oh fooey.... now I have to shave my legs!!! hahahaha)
So.... any advice or thoughts on this new adventure are VERY MUCH welcomed!!!
My world has been CRAZY lately! Closed on my house ( had been renting then purchased) and about 2 weeks later our area flooded and we had 6-8 inches of water in the house! HOLY SMOKIES Batman!!! Think things are headed back to normal... contractor lined up, carpet picked, paint colors being considered... new doors picked out as well! Going to be a "lean" summer but God has provided very well!! And I am ETERNALLY thankful!!! Dealing with a new experience of remodeling a house!
Then the next new experience... I have been out on dates and dinner and currently have a profile on an online service. It has been nice and exciting in it's own way. Through all of that, my neighbor has been a good friend and a ton of help! Our kids have played baseball together and go to the same school. I have known him for probably 6-7 yrs thru kids'activities and on more of a friend basis since I moved onto this street in the fall of 2013. Recently things have shifted somewhat passing what I consider typically friendship. I don't kiss my friends on the lips! LOL He calls or texts most days and it makes me smile on the inside when he does. He has been a divorced single dad for about 13 yrs and (through our friendship) is aware of some of my journey back to myself since divorce. We also have mutual friends one of whom is a dear friend of mine (and she's been saying to me that we should go out... but I didn't figure he was interested in this crazy hot mess of my life) He is incredibly respectful and patient and it just feels peaceful! It feels nice to just be a woman... and have that part of me reawakened!!! I have been so busy being a mom to teenage boys, building a career to support myself and those teenage boys and completing my Masters and some additional certifications... I forgot about that part of myself! (Oh fooey.... now I have to shave my legs!!! hahahaha)
So.... any advice or thoughts on this new adventure are VERY MUCH welcomed!!!
An old co-worker of mine got married last year at age 55 to HER neighbor. Neither had ever been married; had both been care-takers to their mothers who both eventually passed. Once the mothers were gone, he admitted his feelings for her and they just celebrated their 2nd anniversary. :)
Good luck with everything.
love and hugs
kamary
Can't live in a sheltered little world with no possibility of hurt....and actually LIVE life!!!
THANKS!!!!
First, congratulations on becoming a home owner. I am sorry to hear about the flooding and I hope the remodel gives you a chance to make some nice changes to the home.
I hope the neighbor guy works out. It could be awkward living next door to him if it doesn't. I guess it depends on how close a neighbor. Anyway, best wishes to you (((HUGS))) A positive is that you kind of know him. I would think by now if he was a dud you would have heard or witnessed something by now.
He's a nice guy.... I see it as fun as it is. I don't think I am really ready for more than a casual thing. I am not a"friends with benefits" kind of girl but not ready for the level of effort required for a relationship... especially involving 2 different sets of children. We did talk last week briefly about not wanting to mess up a good friendship (especially as neighbors) when he brought the topic up. I will simply ride this wave and see where it goes!!! Thanks!
I get walls tomorrow then get to spend the weekend painting....then on to measure for and order carpet! Then furniture can actually go where it is supposed to go!!!! I can't wait!