Match has worked for me. If you wanted to just test it out for a week for free. I think you can put in the word "FREE " in the promo code. It will ask you to do a 3 month subscription whoch I did sign up for but I cancelled my subscription before my week was up and I didn't get billed for anything. I went on 3 dates from just being on there that one week and I got a very nice girlfriend now from it. I hope this helps.

Good for you, moving on! Great story, too, about the no cost…brilliant!

Dh and I met 6 years ago on Singlenet.com. It's a dating site for people over 40. I never would have thought about going online except Singlenet sent me an email like one week after my divorce was finalized! It's like how did THEY know I was single?? So, I was curious. I felt alive and ready to live, so posted and not long after, dh found me. I wasn't a paying member because I wasn't serious about meeting anyone, but he WAS. Just a year before, I had been to a wedding where the people met in match.com, so thought...ok...it worked for them, so... When I first started, I actually looked at the women's profiles to see how I measured up at my age (I was 48 then; am 55 now.) I think now if I was single, I'd try "mytime.com" (for singles over 50) or "christianmingle.com". But, I got lucky right out of the gate. I know that doesn't usually happen.

Dh and I have been married almost 4 years and we've had our ups and downs, but we know how lucky we are to have met at our age. Dh had done online dating back in the late 90's and again before we met and boy, the stories he told me. Because he was the first man I dated after my divorce and ended up marrying him, I told him once that maybe I should have dated more! He said no, I was missing nothing. I also had a co-worker who was 55 and did OLD and she almost got scammed twice and met some real losers. So, if you decide to try OLD, be smart and be careful.

That's the thing I'm afraid of. How does one know from reading the guy's profiles that they are telling the truth? If it's a widower, I am much more likely to believe them. If they are divorced, something was wrong with the marriage. Although it's not usually just one who is at fault, still you know there were problems. Were they cheaters? That would be my worst fear. Alcoholics, a close second. But they might be absolutely great. How does one know without actually meeting them?

Take your time with it, and if it sounds too good to be true it is. There are scammers on Match.

That being said, I was on Match for 4 months. Decided to switch to eHarmony-HATED it. I'm back on Match and much prefer it.

There are going to be people who prefer others over match-just look around and take your time. I'm finally ready to date (at 3+ years) and it is good feeling. When I joined the first time in July, I wasn't ready, but it really helped me get ready-know what I want and don't want.

Thanks for sharing your experience with Match. When you say scammer, what do you mean exactly? Married men pretending to be single?

I just joined MY TIME....ill let you know how it goes.

Has anyone tried "Our Time"? This is a site for 50 (gasp) and over. I did E Harmony and Match.com after my first divorce 10 years ago, didn't have much success and I got tired of both pretty quickly. Haven't joined any sites this time around. Maybe down the road.....who knows?

I started on eharmony but in my experience I don't believe that their "psychological" matching or whatever they call it is any better then Match, and they cost more.

I went on Match and had lots of nice dates before I met my current boyfriend, who I've been dating for about two years. I think I was on it for about 4 or 5 months before I met my bf. HE was on and off for YEARS, and he said he met some nice people, and he met some liars, and he met some weirdos and......hey, it's just like life!

Match is as good a site as any, and I prefer a site where people pay vs. one that is no-cost. I figure there may be less people just looking for hook-ups on the pay sites, but that's just my opinion.

Good luck

This is a very interesting post. I am very leary about online dating. I'm not even sure I want to date, but I am an old-fashion girl, so I'd like to meet someone the traditional way. I have a friend who did match.com for about five years. She sure had some stories to tell! But she finally found a really great guy and I think this is it for her. So, it definitely works for some.

I went on Match........for 3 months ...got off a month ago. I was just discussing this with Larry I think I live in Sin City AKA Sodom and Gomorrah. Ok that's short for Palm Beach County Florida. I personally met a ton of sex addicts and guys looking to hook up. Traumatizing in a way when you have been a Christian housewife for 32 years. I finally just put on my profile going to Christian Mingle as this isn't for me. Where I live there is a lot of liars. Just so you know a lot of the men said "I didn't even read your profile just looked at your pictures" Wow that's deep...LOL

I keep thinking about joining one of the online dating sites but I just can't get through answering the questions. I don't know. Perhaps I'm too private a person. I have issues with facebook in that department as well but at least I KNOW the people I'm friends with on FB.

That's my concern too, VectorF. I have stung before by believing the way a guy was presenting himself online. Said all the right stuff except that he was married!

I've been on a couple of dating sites and there are pros and cons to all of them.
There is such a cross section of people, from really nice guys to some really awful ones with absolutely no common decency at all. Serial daters, to normal guys, to those just looking for hookups. But it is a great way to really learn a lot about yourself, and what you do and don't want in a relationship. I have only been on the sites for about a year, and I have learnt so much from it, and regained my self esteem.
You just have to learn to stand your ground, and not put up with things that make you feel uneasy or uncomfortable, and also not take rejection too personally......just remember that the others on there also have history like you do, and so they may be just as uncertain about what they really want too.

As someone else said you have to watch out for scammers. Be very very wary of anyone who is overly enthusiastic about telling their entire life story right off the bat, and then trying to persuade you to communicate via a yahoo email address. They are more often than not scammers who want to sweet talk you and get you hooked into helping them financially because of one sob story or another. Sadly these people love to prey on lonely hearts on dating or support websites. I have had to report several, and they have been banned from the site for being fraudulent members pretending to be someone they aren't.
Good luck, and remember to have some fun with it too.

Whatever site you choose, just be careful. There are many, many scammers out there. Be very careful and don't give out info. Meet somewhere public and try to have some fun!