I wish I could loose weight but unfortunately im one of those who find food comforting! I think I have gained 10 lbs since this all started so if i go buy new panties they will be a size bigger, sigh.... I have a neighbor that bakes goodies non stop and i think she has made it her mission to make me fat! today when I went over to take care of her dogs(she is out of town overnight) she had left me cheese cake and cherries, my down fall is all her cooking..

On another note about the original start of this thread (i think) it has been a absolute god send for me, wish id found this site a lot sooner because I knew no one that had been married as long as i have been that was divorcing and while it is very very sad that there are others like me in my position it is soooo much easier knowing im not alone and there are others that are in it or past it to help me along the way.

Iquitnow: How wonderful that your neighbor loves you so much...but I know it is a mixed blessing! I read the book called I Can Make You Thin and for the first time in my life (the last two years) I have not obsessed over food endlessly....I am thankful for that because other wise I know I would be ballooning up to record numbers right now....and my poor little feet couldn't take me anymore! ;o) mmmm....cheesecake and cherries does sound lovely right now....

trisha9054: oooooh I hate hate hate the treadmill.....it is some kind of unrelenting torture device....now I feel completely different when I am out jogging, be it ever so slowly, out on the road! Stationary bikes are truly the worst in my imagination and yet when I have used an elliptical I liked it...go figure. Sounds like you are plenty busy that you don't need an additional workout!

Ladies, LADIES! Please! All this talk about panties is liable to throw our MALE DS friend WT Confused into REAL CONFUSION! LOL!
But while we're on the topic, I just need to say something....I never could stand bikini panties because they got all bound up under tight jeans and riding chaps so I switched to the high-cut ones. They stay where they belong...which is NOT up the crack of my butt. I could never quite figure out why ANYONE would buy those stupid THONG underwear! I pay a lot of money to make sure my undies don't do that "Indian thing" which is creeping up on me.
LOL!

Egads! All this talk about food and exercise makes me hungry and lazy! LOL!
I used to have a really super duper motorized treadmill which I used to get in shape for downhill skiing. It WAS boring as Hell, but I bribed myself into sticking with it. The only time I could listen to books on tape, was when I was on that blessed treadmill. And I found Mel Gibson's voice so enchanting, I listened to My Secret Garden over and over and over again. (I think that was the book he read on tape...been years ago.)

Ok, another handful of Jelly Bellies and I'm heading to the barn to do some AEROBIC HORSE GROOMING before it starts raining again!

Cowgirl: I can remember having had in my clinic, a male cross dresser who wore the "granny style". I'm talking from the granny wig down to the granny shoes!! I wanted so desperately to give him a "maker-over", it wasn't funny!

EEEgads, Tobywinn, you're killing me here! Blecch! I simply can't IMAGINE....
But then, on the other hand, about 20 years ago while driving home from a late night horse auction, I passed a guy out walking two roads over from my farm, and I swore my eyes were going weird on me. He was wearing a housedress! I shook my head and kept driving thinking I must have imagined it.

Two weeks later, I saw him again! THIS TIME, I went down the road a little bit and turned around and drove back for a double check. Sure nuff! He was wearing the same frumpy looking housedress, sneakers and crew socks. I almost ran off the road.

From that day forward, whenever we would talk about that location or that house or THAT WEIRD GUY, it was always referred to as THE MAN IN THE DRESS! I don't know what ever became of him, but some new people bought the place years later and they are my friends.

Weirdness even out here in the wilds of Maryland!

PS: Hey Cowgirl: Your advice about "it's not a pretty picture thinking about a guy wearing ANYTHING that Victoria offers" reminded me of Richard Simons , the weight loss and fitness guru. During one of his demonstrations wearing his well known shorts- shorts, had showed the world his crown jewels !!! So yes, please warn the guys to stay away from Victoria Secrets. LOL!

OK, OK Enough on this topic that I started! I take it back!! NO GRANNY PAINTIES FOR ME. I will be more careful trying to brighten days around here ! (But I got a smile out of it too) OK and I will admit that I do own a Kilt and the neighbor women say I have the legs to wear it !

WTconfused: So do you play the bagpipes to go with the kilt???

Speaking of kilts I was at a super concert not long ago, the band was called coyote run , they were unbelievabley good! They wore kilts and played the bag pipes and all sorts of stuff! If you ever get a chance to go see them you should.

I just got back to my post this evening. My thing is Zumba and I love it. Also, Diane, my goal for the summer is to climb Table Rock. I think all of you could come to Idaho! Not now of course but in the summer.

Now back to other comments. I needed all the laughs. It's been a difficult week. My parents were married 65 years when my mom passed a away summer before last. My Dad took care of my mom as long as he could and then hired nurses to come in and take care of her in the house. I have no excuse for not having a good marriage. It was modeled for me daily.

drtexdi: Your last sentence; I can't tell if you are talking of the past marriage or one that might happen in the future.Yes, your parents modeled a good marriage for you to follow but what model did your ex go by? You alone couldn't hold the marriage together. It does take two to work for a successful marriage but only one to destroy that marriage. On your side you probably had the best marriage you could make of it.

If I ever thought of marrying again I would run the other way if I met a man with my ex's backround. He was not marriage material. But I am saying this in hindsight. People hide what they are until they feel comfortable enough to let you really see what they are.

Trisha9054, you hit the nail on the head with you comment to drtexdi. My parents are still married (over 55 years) and I have commented here in my journals that their life together and the life they gave me growing up is what I wanted in my life and marriage, BUT that was not the life my wife (ok ex-wife) had as an example. As hard as I tried to work on things and keep harmony I could not do it by myself. So our marriage was turning into what she experienced growing up, which to me was not/is not a marriage. It takes Two!

All this chatter on "good examples" brings something vital to mind for me. My X's parents were also married more than 50 years. Although nobody sees what goes on behind closed doors, they appeared to have a harmonious relationship and were devoted to each other.

Somehow, though, my X had this notion that if he (got) and stayed married, he was destined to "live a life of quiet desperation" -- and I know that's a quote from someone famous, just can't recall who right now.

It was my X's "notion" that caused all the trouble. He actually SAID THAT TO ME many times during our 30 year relationship. I say now (as I said to him then) "If you keep telling yourself that this is the way you are going to feel, YOU ARE GOING TO FEEL THAT WAY!" It has taken four years since our divorce for him to SEE, FEEL AND UNDERSTAND that he is living that "life of quiet desperation" even WITHOUT BEING MARRIED.

I write this for EVERYONE here to think about. Our lives become what we WANT THEM TO BECOME and that's why DAILY SELF-AFFIRMATION is so important!