In my counseling, I have learned that everyone in your dream is really you. Your brain is trying to sort things out. So my counselor usually has me explain what's going on in the rest of my world and then it makes sense. For instance, I had a dream this last week. I have been extremely busy at work and it doesn't seem anyone is organized to get their part of the work done. So, I have had to step in and organize things so they keep moving. my dream was about my aunt (the most organized person in my life) and she was my wedding planner. No groom in the dream but somehow, it was my wedding day and I realized I didn't have a wedding dress but I was sure my aunt had it covered. So, I asked her and she went crazy. She got all the bridesmaids to look on Craig's list to get dresses in my size so just as it was about time for me to go down the aisle, they all showed up with a different dress. And then I woke up. It was WILD and CRAZY. My counselor said that my aunt represented the me that was needing to organize all this stuff at work but that the calm me (the one that was waiting for the dresses to arrive) was who I am today, and that is "I will do what I can and there is always tomorrow".

In my journey since the divorce I have worked hard not to be a workaholic because that is also just a form of addiction and it has been going well.

So, the bottom line is your X just represents something else in your dream but it's still you trying to process your stuff.

you said, " Most of the features were the same. Slight discrepancies in build/height/looks."

I have yet to introduce any of the gals I've dated since the divorce without hearing from others how much she looks like my ex. So, this person in your dream just may not have been your ex.

Larry the more I analyze it the more I agree. Just seeing his face sets me off still so I don't believe it was him. And I was happy!! Haven't felt that in too many years to mention. Happiest before birth of grandson was probably birth of both my sons. I no doubt had happy times with exass. But the last few years of recollections seem to be more of despising his lies. Trying to tell when he was truthful isn't working any more..
And isn't that what we're all looking for? Happiness. Not faked but real.

After considering things others wrote in their responses, perhaps it means you will be happy even if he is still around in some way shape or form.

I agree KRK. I, too, have dreams with the ex in it...ones where we're a happy family again probably because we were for so long.

It makes me feel bad because I have a NEW husband who should be in my dreams. I also find it sad that I still know my ex's phone number by heart but not my new husband's. I FINALLY can't remember my ex's social security number and that's been just recent.

After 8 years and a new wife
This early morning I woke up crying and shaking.
Thinking I miss her
Never had one so intence like this one.
Crazy, .... That's 8 years ago....
Does it ever. REALLY end.
Well...... Back to sleep....
You know...... I still feel bad from the dream...
The shaking scared me.....
Anyway........crazy
Timeman

My new wife and I are going to be married
4 years this July. While I do have a friendly
relationship with my x. It ends there.
Why the dreams...... well maybe not about the
X, as much as the past life .
I don't know why.....
TM

I, too, will celebrate 4 years with my husband this year, and it's been 8 years since the divorce, yet, from time to time, will have a dream with my ex in it. The past life...that must be it and probably because it was such a long time we were a happy family.

In my case, I was just replaced. HE has the family my daughters feel comfortable with and I know my daughters like his wife, but don't feel comfortable around my husband. Their kids blended, mine and dh's didn't. So, I feel like my daughters still have their family...just a different mom. :(

YE GAD! I hope I don't dream about mine

Red you Crack me up.

Dreams can also be prophetic. There have been quite a few times where I had a dream concerning my ex and it came true. One could say it was a logical outcome and the dream reflected that but it didnt matter to me.

oh dairy I don't want this one coming true if it was indeed him. lmao

He can have his "new" family he brags about so often. I have no contact and prefer it that way. I may struggle with waiting for his alimony payments here and there but I don't call/text him. We all know that is what they want. Contact.
But not from me! :)

When I have a dream about that ex, it is just plain aggravating. When I do, it is usually that he is upset about something. I had those during the divorce. Every time I had a dream about my late girlfriend, things worked out in my favour. The last one was that I could sense him around but could not find him. Just take them as a TV program, and annoying one too and forget al about them.