Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
Hi Everybody!!!!! It's been so long know and man how time just flys by. Sorry it's been awhile I hope all of you are making it through your journey's with hope, faith, confidence and a belief in yourselves that you can do this. My DISNEY trip with my kids was MAGICAL beyond words and gave me a new sense of myself and a feeling of strength I thought was long gone. I took all your Prayers and good wishes with me and I felt the warmth all around me. So lets see what else the stbx has decided all on his own that he is just not going to pay me spousal support anymore. Just because he was married to me for 23 years does not mean he has to keep supporting us he is not responsible for my well being. So were going back to court another trial set for April 3rd. Keep sending me your Prayers and good thoughts I hope the Judge gives it to him but good.
I want to send out a big warm hug to all our new friends on DS and want to tell all of you that you are never alone. There are alot of us out here who have been where you are and understand your pain. Take to heart the advice you will find here it is a source of comfort and strength when you feel you have none. All of us have felt alone in the dark but DS was my light during those dark days. There is HOPE and things will get better you just have to ride out the storm. There are twist and turns, ups and downs, and big fat road blocks along the way, But...... there is an end to it all and one day you will smile, laugh, and even love again but first you have to learn to LOVE yourself again.
Sending you all BIG BIG HUGS AND SMILES:)
Disney....
I want to send out a big warm hug to all our new friends on DS and want to tell all of you that you are never alone. There are alot of us out here who have been where you are and understand your pain. Take to heart the advice you will find here it is a source of comfort and strength when you feel you have none. All of us have felt alone in the dark but DS was my light during those dark days. There is HOPE and things will get better you just have to ride out the storm. There are twist and turns, ups and downs, and big fat road blocks along the way, But...... there is an end to it all and one day you will smile, laugh, and even love again but first you have to learn to LOVE yourself again.
Sending you all BIG BIG HUGS AND SMILES:)
Disney....
Sorry to hear about the spousal maintenance. I hope the judge socks it to him too.
love and hugs
kamary
I'm sorry you came back to another roadblock, just know that he is WRONG! And you are RIGHT!
(((((HUGE HUGS))))))
Hey, with this court date coming up for you, would you believe that I just had to go thru that circus last year? I didn't have an attorney but had touched base with one. She said, 'there are some key points that you need to touch on. Did he get most of the property at the timeof the divorce? Was there a working arrangement, such as you would be home the majority of the time, not work full time/just part time, while he worked full time and supported the family? And that this was a marriage that lasted 20 years...
Good luck. I'll send up a few for you and good to meet you! L~
Glad you trip was as wonderful and hope that you are rejuvinated for this next leg of the 'journey'.
Support is ineveitable - why does he even WASTE eveyones time with this stupidity?! Does he really think he won't have to pay? What an ass. Go get 'em girlfriend!
You have a great attitude, nothing you can do about his behavior.
Have a great day!
Re the jerk - I wish he was in California. Nailing deadbeats is fun and judges hate people who resort to self-help. Contempt charges and the possibility of jail may change his mind. If he's employed, a wage assignment is always a good way to collect support here.
Lynne
Folks, Disney is living proof that there is a good life after divorce.
Now, unpack your bags, rest up, and then take that no good skunk of an ex back to court and kick his butt. Don't you just love it when they simply think they can ignore a court order.
Hugs!