Yes!!! Yet it's excused every day.

How often do we see societies break down completely after a period of family breakdown in that society? When each individual is strong and full of integrity, it makes our countries strong. No prize for guessing what happens when people allow their moral fibre to go to pieces.

Unfortunately, I think there are too many people who don't believe in God or who choose to ignore Him today.

The problem is society at large no longer condemns adultery. I use my ex as a classic example--a mere two weeks after kicking him out, he took the ow to meet the family. She went to the family reunion, etc. He wanted to bring her to his daughter's wedding but she put her foot down and said, "Absolutely not." But it has been amazing to me how many people just let things like this go. Maybe if adultery had more of a stigma like it did in the old days, there would be a lot less of it.

Did anyone see the movie "Its complicated' ? Says a lot about how people accept adultey.

I believe that anyone who calls him/herself a Christian (or Catholic or Jew) KNOWS where God stands on Adultery. After all, it's one of the 10 Commandments. Unfortunately, our society seems to only acknowledge whatever Commandment suits their individual agendae these days.

For example: The X had long called himself a "recovering Catholic" yet began going to Mass again after his mother passed away in the mid 1990's. Lo and behold when he decided to ditch our 23-year marriage, not only did he continue to go to Mass, but he would walk into God's house with the OW on his arm! Talk about blasphemy -- and SHE was in the process of becoming a Catholic at the time. Truly -- I thought -- if there really IS a God, why didn't the roof cave in on the two of them? Probably because it would have injured a lot of innocent people at the same time.

I do believe in God and Divine Justice. The Bible talks about exacting revenge in a way that made me stop wishing awful things to happen to the X. The passage reads: "Revenge is mine, sayeth the Lord." The X and the OW will have to answer for their sins when their time comes. I can walk through all the days of MY life with a clear conscience -- and that's a good thing!

Several times this subject of our society's lackadaisal attitude toward Adultery has come up. Nothing will change until the people DEMAND IT. I'm all for lobbying our local and state judiciary systems to CHANGE the way divorce laws are written. I don't believe in NO FAULT divorce -- surely SOMEONE is at fault -- and when a spouse has committed Adultery, they are most definitely AT FAULT. IMO they should be called out and forced to make retribution for breaking the marital contract.

I have said many times that it would take a gargantuan effort on the part of concerned citizens to invoke a change in all of this. There is power in numbers and what better place to form a coalition for this cause than among our membership!

Yes, it amazes me too... :(

We are going after my husband for abandonment and adultery. The adultery won't get me anything because 'everyone does it' but my atty wants it in the papers anyway.

His adultery and his son the ex left in the Philippines is all over my divorce papers. All of it discussed in the last comtempt hearing. In SC it did get me a bit more in my settlement but the ex gave me what I asked for. I should have added his drinking into my decree. All of that still doesn't matter to a court system that is overworked.

What a different world we would live in if everyone actually applied bible principles.

Sleeping around is the norm in this world. I was looking at the Sunday paper yesterday and someone wrote in asking how many times a particular character had married on some soap opera. The answer was something like 13 or 14. I wondered who in their right mind would marry someone who had been married that many times? Anyway...we are fed that stuff daily and gobble it up then we think "everybody's doing it." Before long, everybody IS doing it. Even the prime time tv shows has everybody hooking up. I used to enjoy Grey's anatomy and then it just got disgusting. The trouble with trying to get the courts to convict people is that those people who would be doing the convictions are cheating too. There is a lot of conflict that comes with punishing someone for doing the same thing you are doing.

This makes me think of another question though....OK I'll admit it, I am a staunch Christian and I have always lived by the rules of abstinance unless married. Now that I am finding myself single again, I am struggling with this concept. I want to be an "adult" and look at sex differently, but my inculcated values wont let me. I feel my accountability to God is more important than sexual gratification right now. So I've wondered how this is going to affect me when I am ready to start dating again.....if ever. Right now I don't see myself ever trusting a man again, but we all know that can change as we heal. But given the right circumstances, is it unreasonable for me to expect a new relationship to accept my views? How realistic is it for me....a 40something woman....to expect a man to go without sex while dating?

PsiChi, I may be wrong, but I've always thought that sex belongs in a committed married relationship. If a bloke thinks he needs sex or the relationship is off, I would tend to think that's how the marriage will be as well?

Probably should qualify that. I mean he will always have the say as to how much is too little sex and then you're marriage is based on sex and not love for each other?

I have the same belief system Kamary. I think if we openly seek a man that has a matching belief system then that should be something they would understand from the first date (or close to it). If you talk about spiritual things then they should know where you stand.

As for the adultery issue, it is definitely a non-issue to most of society until it happens to them personally. The damage that is done to children, families and society at large is awful and yet we continue to turn a blind eye towards it.

As far as the statement that those who make the laws have in many cases been guilty of adultery is probably true. I heard that statement associated with DUI's for years until society got fed up. We could only hope that the same would be true for adultery.

drtexdi you wrote this:

"As far as the statement that those who make the laws have in many cases been guilty of adultery is probably true. I heard that statement associated with DUI's for years until society got fed up"

That statement you wrote is very true.
From 17 to 26 I worked in the bars my family owned. It wasn't unusual to see the state representative come in with a woman that wasn't his wife. Also at that time the local law could drink in bars. The last bar I had usually had an off duty cop or two in it every night because I would watch their backs. They weren't with their wives. The elite of town would do the same thing. They called it slumming. Don't get me started on the local pastors who stumbled into our bar after church with a bottle of vodka in their rightous hands. Adultery is not anything new and will be around for a long time. There is just more of it out in the open.