I haven't seen the movie, but it got good reviews so I was hoping to see it. I like every movie that Denzel Washington is in. I think he is such a great actor. I'm not so sure that I want to see it now after reading your post :) I am still very sensitive to anything regarding infidelity. I want to see a movie that I will enjoy and I am afraid that seeing it may make me feel worse. Did you enjoy it and are you glad you saw it?

It was very well done with complex characters although a little drawn out and more solemn than I expected. But I don't recommend it if you are still sensitive to topics about infidelity. it gave me a little gut punch but not anything debilitating. The guy I went with told me afterwards that he too was affected based on his ex-wife's infidelity. Touchy subject. But I still found it interesting.

I went to see Fences on Tuesday and other than knowing Denzel Washington was in it, I had no idea what the story was. The film was good, but very dark. I grew up in a dysfunctional family and this film depicted all sorts of generational dysfunction which isn't fun The infidelity didn't bother me as much as the way he demeaned his son...I grew up with that kind of treatment from my mother. Definitely not "light entertainment" this one.

Sounds interesting and someone else mention it last week to me. But, after reading the postings here about it.....not my kind of movie . I just feel that I had alot of trouble of my own and. ....I just don't need to see someone else's ...in a movie. It's just my personal feeling . Like CGK , I was raised by a rather abusive father. Very strick and he drank alot. How many times my mother would give me a nickel to call theolice on him. He was very verbally abusive. Not a good way to be raised. Maybe that's why my mother left him with all of us and walked out the door. I was only about 11. So, anyway.........I wouldn't enjoy the movie. Maybe it would just bring back bad memories. I have enough trouble trying to forget the last ten years.... Ha ha. Have a good day.... Bob

Not for me either

haven't seen it, i don't accept that someone can love their family (kids and spouse) yet put them in jeopardy,

I might go see it if it's in my area. The ex was and is a serial cheater. He cheated on his first wife, he cheated while married to me and he has cheated on his third wife. I'm sure family life was stressful for him but that just gave him an excuse to do the things he wanted to do.

10 years later, my feelings about cheating remain the same...no excuse, however, like you, cmonge, I feel it was at the time we were struggling with our oldest daughter who was in her early teens...differences in parenting, is when he checked out and started his affair with his now wife. My belief is either turn to your spouse or divorce them BEFORE you cheat.

My second husband and I both have to keep our mouths shut when watching a movie in which cheating is done because, like my ex, he cheated on his first wife for reasons of his own. We feel very differently about cheating, but what my dh DOES know is that if he EVER cheated on ME, I'd be gone and I was very upfront about that BEFORE we married almost 6 years ago.

I do love Denzel Washington, so probably will watch it at some point, but won't pay to see it at a movie.

I watched the film and thought it was great. Since I am 7 years post divorce..pain was not part of the mix...however...a bit of understanding was...not that I think it was right.

My ex did not want to grow old and had a hard time making decisions on lifes issues. He always was a procrastinator. His solution...run away to escape. Fences helped to get a wider view on his take on our marriage...again...not that I think it was right.

The movie brought up many topics that applied to my marriage. The wifes solution was interesting. She emotionally checked out as well. As I watched her I was grateful mine ended...I could not see myself living that way but would have to if we stayed together...it would have been a death of a different kind. During the late years of their marriage they lived separate lives..very sad.

Watching her dealing with the emotional fallout was very realistic...I remember it well. I too lived through my ex...put myself last. His successes were mine...his failures were mine. I lost my own hopes and dreams in the process...my mistake. Watching her finally put herself first and pursing her own dreams was awesome to watch. A bit of a light bulb moment for me which I have applied to my present situation. Awesome movie! Big Hugs...Kathy

I walked out of the movie towards the end, too many old memories. It's been 9 yrs. since my ex wife walked out the door leaving me to support my 3 children, a 12 yr. son & 2 girls in college. I was able to relate to the pain the wife and Son experienced. What's amazing it's the first time I've walked out of a movie.