Well, OF COURSE WE DO! But not just sex for sex's sake...at least not now. I sewed plenty of "wild oats" back when I was young and stupid, but I'm much wiser now and think a whole lot more of myself than to just get naked with some guy I hardly know!

NO NO NO LOL LOL.....you went away with one......you tell us......you are crazy......LOL

you go cowgirl.......

Loving, consensual, respectful and with mutuality (both giving and receiving), what's not to enjoy?

I think the biggest problem in many relationships is an imbalance of power/control. If two people are on the same page, moving forward together, it's as good as life gets. If someone isn't all in, only going through the motions, or worse yet, deceives, lies and cheats, the damage is almost as bad as life gets.

For myself, I don't know if I will see a balanced, mutual, relationship again, or if I would believe it if I saw it. It's not just about the physical side of being together, but the emotional and spiritual side too. I believe, for myself, that all 3 should align to support a healthy intimacy.

MNMama, why can't I write like that.....instead of being such a hothead....very well written ...and I agree with everything you said....

i hope so
down the road, i really hope so
in the past i hoped and tried to include it in the equation

MNMama-

I could NOT have said it better myself.

I count myself VERY lucky that I had a long term relationship post my 20 year marriage. He died just over two years ago.

I was so lucky to find him...and we had some wonderful years together.

I do NOT expect things to 'align' again for me.

And that is OK.

oh Gerette, I am sorry for you loss.....death is very hard on all of us who have felt it.....i have lost a lot of loved ones in the past few years and still grieving.......I too expect to have hit the end of the road.....

Of course they do.

A lady surely does enjoy love making with the man that she loves & he loves her in return. But casual, hook up, no commitment sex, ... Not so much. Call me old school, old fashioned, etc. ... To each their own. I am old (57) but I am not dead. It is a totally different world out there today. :)

MNmama, you are an elegant writer.

MNMama said it perfectly for me: "It's not just about the physical side of being together, but the emotional and spiritual side too."

My ex and I had great sex until he spoilt it by having an affair. End of trust.

love and hugs
kamary

Yes we do. What's not to like????? I too am old fashioned so I will wait until I'm married again, sigh. I really miss that part of my marriage.
Gerette, I am so sorry for your loss.......

Hey Thiscantbe...I am 55, and do NOT consider myself 'old'.

I am a like a fine wine that gets better with age!

Now I just need a connoisseur that truly appreciates fine wine...lol

People generally like sex. So much so, some get married for it and some leave their families for it. It's a problem if you [or your spouse] doesn't and push away. There's reasons! Just curious why do you ask?