Thank you all, I slept somewhat, seemed like a very long night, probely cat sleeping,on and off. I am just relaxing and trying not to define anything, just play with the dog, do my son laundry and get him off to school.
thanks I will post later

Hi all just got back, she had 7 people to testify agaist me the oldest son included. She did not file in a timly fashion and they were all denied to testify.The advisor appointed from the court pulled the Her DUI, crisis, attempt, medical records etc. she also pulled the false domestic my wife filed on me. The conclusion, many years of VA, DA and unstable for my son.
The judge wnet throught the house ( awarded to me) debts (have to go back Oct1) and custody (go back on visitation with mothe on Oct 1) so I got custody, full or shared to be determined, but I am told I will get it.

The judge asked me to speak freely about the chain of events several months before thansksgiving (attempt) to now. a very emotional me, described in detail the hell, the hell my son and I wnet through and that none of the people in the back row were even there or helped.

After 5 minutes, he ask how my son was doing, which I gladly told of the positives now and the hurt he feels and trama of finding his mother.

He aslo asked about other family and friendship realtions, which I told him dont exist, no one....no one every called to see if my son was ok....no one, so my son relys on me! and I am the guiding force to get him into positives.

The judge asked me , what do you think is going on, I told him, my wife has fabracted a story in which I am blamed for all the problems and that she takes no responsibility for her own actions. ...she blames me and people that were not there are accepting her story at face value. That with all the documentation and 3" of emails of my concern for her and her well being, that one cannot denie, she has a mental problem she does not want to face.
At the end, I think ...I know I did well and feel better, a very emotional day!
story is unraveling, if they dont see, man there all idiots.


I have to think, all those so called friends and family, after hearing the advisor and what I had to say,, her

that they would not see that there is a complete different side to what happened

glad things went in your favor - it must be a huge relief !

You did well, mrstrength. I'm blown away by the number of people who took sides with only one persons story during divorce. Stay strong. In my experience while it hurts very much at the time, it's easier to accept that those people aren't meant to be in my new free life. It has to be for my best in the long run.

Love and hugs
Kamary

Glad it went well. These people like to rewrite history but forget they leave a paper trail of proof of their lies and actions. They are good at manipulating people.
Good luck

With all the reports and records on your stbx I felt the judge would see thru what she was trying to do. The courts have dealt with this many times and I'm so happy this is going in your favor.

I’m happy for you that things worked out the way that they did.
I think that the judge recognized that she was wrong, lying and trying to manipulate you . These judges have seen this kind of stuff many times before ………. She just fit into a pattern of spouse that lie and cheat. They will do whatever they to get as much as they can , to destroy the other one that they have been with so long. It’s such a shame. They lower themselves so much .
Not only that , Things have a way of coming back at all your bad deeds . With you , She got all her witnesses ready and what happen ………………… HA , she filed to late and it all back fired.
Soooooo, good for you !!!!!! . I know that it doesn’t relieve all the stress and emotions, but at least you don’t have to worry about that part anymore and it’s a step forward to you getting on with your life. ….
The truth has a way of hanging around and coming to the top…. It may be hidden and dormant for a while , but little by little ……………….it wins … it surfaces !
I have something similar with my Grandchildren ….. Someday they will know the truth ….. Their Grandpa Bob didn’t run away… He never showed up at any functions because he wasn’t invited . Not that he didn’t love you anymore. He only saw you once in a while not by his choice . Your father never brought you t visit him anymore . …. It’s your grandmother that ran off .
Sooooooooooooooooooooo, this truth will come out ..someday . I may not be here ,but they will know …. Anyway….. Sorry .
I get carried away myself at times. .
Anyway !!!!!!!! Good for you !!!!
You take care of yourself and your son …
Keep believing.......... keep telling the truth..... . get rid of your anger...... forgive as much as you can .

God Bless
Bob

((((HUGS))))...mrstrength...I'm so happy things are working in your direction. It kind of instills faith in the legal systems...Big Hugs...Kathy

So glad that things went well for you. You've jumped a big hurdle towards the finish line. Keep your eyes on the prize - your new life and freedom!
Hugs,
Tracy

Thank guys, thanks for all the great support!

Glad things went well for you.

It must have been difficult to speak about such private and painful things in front of a courtroom of people - especially including those that came to support your stbx. There was likely some head shaking and smirking going on, and it takes strength and determination to plow on through that!

That said, I agree with you that many of those same people may have gotten a different impression about how the break-up went down. Indeed, they may have left with some questions in their mind about supporting someone whose 'story' they had only heard one accounts of (hers).

The worst is behind you. Onwards and upwards! Best

It was brutal, walking down the hall way in the court house, my attorney and I , past the mob as they were all giggling and laughing ( like they have this in the bag) I held my composure, no eye contact and walked in.
The gasp of when the judge denied all of them as witnesses was very sweet sound to my ears. Everytime she questened something she was questioned back, "what are you asking" etc. When she got frustrated she started to cry, it did hit me in the heart, I do not like to see her cry, but, if she were winning (theres no winning in this) she would be rubbing it in. I took the opertunity when the judge asked me to go back several months and tell him what my take was on why. I did, I called each and every one of them sitting there that they all did nothing, not even a visit to my wife and that It was my son and I that took care of everything and saved her life. That they are here now in court , but where were they in the time of need.....no where!

I also stated that they bought her story without knowing the facts and to buy her story is to accept it , but yet she is the one mental off, and that she had to be off to try to commit suicide.

I have to say I did feel very good, I did break down emotional several time on the stand as I talked about the hell I have been through, and I did break again when I told the court that through this hell....no one absolutily, no one called to see how my son was. and how much that disgusses me.

I am doing the 3 items I have left, and getting ready for Oct 1 , hopefully it will be done, this time though, I have 10 minutes on the stand and she has 40 minutes to be questioned by my attorney... this will not be good for her!

Hang in there!! It sounds like you are doing as well as can be expected, under the circumstances. Stay strong and just take every step you can for your son. He has been your primary focus and that is to your credit. I think it must be showing on the stand.