This was an excellent post - just what I needed - Thank you so much! So glad to hear that you are doing so well my friend. Keep up the good work!

drtexdi - Right now, I am living in southwest Florida and am really REALLY looking forward to a winter of going to the beach and riding my bike and enjoying the sunshine INSTEAD of dreading raking leaves and shoveling snow! So I guess you could say that's one thing on my Bucket List that I have finally gotten around to doing.

It is amazing once the hurt and devastation have passed at how you look at what is possible -- instead of what you may "think" you lost.

Cheers to you for the ziplining...I don't think that's ever going to be on MY bucket list, though.

Ziplining is on my bucket list too! It sounds like so much fun, along with MANY other things that I never dared to dream about doing when I was married to my x. As hard as divorce is to go through, when the dust finally settles, it is a blessing to be able to do the things that bring us joy without anyone poo-pooing our dreams. I've been off from work and school this summer, and I was worried that I would be antsy and bored without "the schedule" this summer. As it turns out, I've had time to do the little things that I enjoy like inner-tubing, walking and reading. Last night when I did my nightly journaling, I wrote down all of the things that I did this summer that brought me happiness and contentment. It made me realize that even though almost two years have passed since my x and I separated and divorced, that life goes on, and I can still enjoy my life. Life is good - thank you God!

Haha CGK. Everyone has a their own unique bucket list! Living in WV, I don't have to shovel snow near as much as I used to in Idaho. I love "not shoveling snow." It is one of the great joys of living in a warmer climate (although I didn't go to as warm of a climate as you).

I am getting a new car on Friday and when the leaves start to turn, I plan to take some drives (maybe into Amish country). Are you game Hurtin'? I love fall colors!

HealingT, that may be a good topic . . . things that bring us happiness and contentment. It might help the new people see where they can focus their energy to bring about healing.

What a great post drtexdi .
I always said that after getting a divorce your true self comes out .
I remember that after the divorce and she moved out , I went to a dollar store and I saw some nice coffee cups that I needed ...and liked ... For a split second I said to myself ...... She (Meaning the x) wont like them ....
I said ... : Wait , I don't have to please her anymore ...... I LIKE THEM. It was a good feeling and from then on I found many things that I liked and liked to do .that I really forgot all about them all these years ... It was like I was reborn ........... or that I'M BACK ! LOL.
Now during that time I was also mourning the divorce and they were rough times (As we all know).
But, during those "hard" times ..I was finding myself...................AGAIN .
You said you that you learned Ballroom dancing ....... Good for you . My wife and I go out at least once a week dancing . We're not experts ,but we learned many of the turns . We have fun ! Unfortunately My legs are getting worst (Blockages ) and I have to sit down more , but ...but ..I keep doing ... LOL.

Kathi, Good for you .................. No shoveling snow ... Sounds good to me .
That's one of my goals ..even just for the winter months .... two or three months will be fine .....

Yes, it's nice to do all the things that you want to do ..... that you never could ... Now that the hurt of divorce is going away....................
Have a great day everyone ................................ My love to all....................

I am a survivor of divorce and proud of it . ! LOL... (Not proud of the divorce , just that I survived )

I'm living my bucket list. This farm is what I started and I want to finish.. I might just be able to do that. I have fresh air and four seasons and work that I love. Sometimes too much work and I complain but I love where I am and what I am still able to do. Some days are humid, some early mornings are cold but most days are wonderful. I get a little bit of every kind of weather and I love change. There is always nature and something to do on this farm. I'm certainly never bored.

While in the air ziping, were you yelling out "weeeeee" like the pig in the commerical? I'm in search of a zipline that lasts longer than 10 min a ride. Know of any?

PS: How much does your zipline cost? Here in Las Vegas, its $20 a pop! and its a short ride!

As a matter of fact, we spent 2 1/2 hours going down the mountain. I did not pay for it. I did it with our women's volleyball team and they paid for mine in exchange for driving them. I understand they paid a little over $70 for the group rate. Today, I came to my office and on my desks was a t-shirt from them for taking them. I'm living the life, aren't I?

We went to Little Hocking, Ohio and the name of the company is Canopy Tours. I don't know if any of you live close enough to this facility but it is fabulous. I believe it is about $90 for a "3 hour tour." Who knows if you will come back. Lol.

I went ziplining in Jamaica, but I was still married. It was great fun.

HealingT, I like your journal idea. Pastor said last night by focusing on what's going right is a good way to keep our attitude in check.

I've never put down a bucket list. Oh, I've said out loud "that's going on my bucket list" if I hear about something fun. But I'm weird. I won't make goals for myself it I don't know if I can achieve them. I have this issue at work too when they ask for goals. To me looking at what I didn't accomplish makes me disappointed. Well, the good thing about a bucket list is you have your entire life to do it....and I'm still a baby LOL

Timeman's dollar store story reminded me about how my EX hates curry. I cook all kinds of stuff with curry now. I have powered and paste. FREEEEEEDOM LOL

Love all your posts. Can't wait to get to the other side. Thanks

drtexdi - All I have to say is that you haven't been in West Virginia long enough. The past two winters have been extremely MILD with very little snow. LOL. Keep that shovel handy, my dear. This year could be a real doozy! xoxo

Kathi, I hear it could be a bad one this year. The good news is that even a bad one can't compare to Idaho. I'm not saying that I won't end up in FL or TX in my later years. It probably depends on where my kids end up when I retire.

After27, you will get there. These wise ladies were telling me that 3 1/2 years ago.

Tobywinn, I forgot to answer the weeeeee question. We were divided into 2 groups and I was in the first group. We could hear the other group as they were behind us For the first long zip, we decided we would all scream as we went one at a time. Well, truth is we all tried to do a fake scream but a real one came out. Lol. After the first one, none of us screamed because we wanted to show how tough we are. Athletes: you gotta love them!

This is a great post, Di. I want your job!!

What fun you guys are all having. I don't have a bucket list written down but I want to go to the Galapagos Islands, and I also want to ride in a hot air balloon. That's about it.

Ziplining sounds extremely exhilirating. I might try that, too.

I can't imagine what it must be like to have to shovel snow. I'm thoroughly enjoying owning my own home, managing my own garden, and being free to do whatever I want to do, to believe what I want to believe in. I love going to bed at night with a smile on my face, looking forward to the peace and comfort of my bed which is specially made for people in pain, with no one complaining that it's too soft or too hot or that my feet are cold. LOL. Ahhh.

love and hugs
kamary